The Art of Charm 414: Dr. Emily Nagoski | Come As You Are
Jun 10, 2015
Dr. Emily Nagoski, a wellness education director and best-selling author, dives into the complexities of desire and intimacy. She explains why women may be easier to turn off than men and how fetishes develop through personal experiences and societal influences. The discussion redefines orgasms as a journey rather than a destination, challenging the pressure for performance. Nagoski emphasizes the crucial role of honest communication in enhancing sexual experiences, advocating for prioritizing pleasure over societal expectations.
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Dual Control Model of Sexual Response
- Sexual response in the brain includes both an accelerator and a brake system operating simultaneously.
- Desire and arousal involve turning on the accelerator and releasing the brakes, not just increasing stimulation.
Gender Differences in Sexual Brake Sensitivity
- Men generally have a more sensitive sexual accelerator, while women tend to have more sensitive sexual brakes.
- Women face more cultural and internal factors activating these brakes, affecting sexual desire.
Address Partner's Sexual Brakes
- Learn what triggers your partner's sexual brakes and work to remove those obstacles.
- Addressing non-sexual life stressors and building trust can enhance sexual pleasure significantly.
