ADHD Chatter The Emotional Cost Of Undiagnosed ADHD & How To Reverse It | Dr Lalitaa Suglani (Psychologist)
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Dec 30, 2025 Dr. Lalitaa Suglani, an award-winning psychologist, dives deep into the emotional toll of undiagnosed ADHD. She explores the grief and burnout caused by long-term masking and how it leads to feelings of isolation. Discussion ranges from the impact of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria on relationships to strategies for managing ADHD overwhelm. Dr. Lalitaa emphasizes the importance of therapy in reconnecting with one’s inner child and reframing feelings of being 'broken' into understanding being 'misunderstood.' Her insights shed light on the complex nuances of living with ADHD.
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ADHD Shows Up Beyond The DSM
- ADHD often shows through learned coping and masking, not just textbook fidgeting or inattention.
- Dr Lalitaa Suglani urges clinicians to assess childhood history and coping patterns to see ADHD's full impact.
The Swan: Masked Success, Hidden Exhaustion
- Late or undiagnosed ADHD often produces grief, anger, and a sense of being unseen despite outward competence.
- The 'swan' analogy captures visible calm while intense inner effort, rumination and exhaustion occur unseen.
Pause To Reconnect With Yourself
- Pause to learn who you are rather than constantly performing to fit others' expectations.
- Practice vulnerability and reduce hypervigilance so you stop making every interaction about regulating others.
