40: Breakups, no contact and building self esteem to date again.
Oct 20, 2023
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This podcast episode discusses how to handle breakups, the importance of no contact, and rebuilding self-esteem. It also explores different attachment styles in breakups and provides strategies for maintaining no contact and overcoming post-breakup challenges.
No contact after a breakup helps create new pathways and provides clarity, while closure comes from internal introspection and personal growth.
Attachment styles influence how individuals handle breakups, with anxious individuals seeking reassurance and avoidant types detaching quickly.
Deep dives
The Importance of No Contact and Closure
No contact is crucial after a breakup as it allows individuals to form new pathways and detach from old ones. It helps prevent emotional backsliding and provides clarity. Closure is not achieved through external sources, but rather through internal introspection, therapy, and personal growth. Validate your feelings and focus on self-care and self-talk. Set boundaries with mutual friends and avoid common places. Remember your reasons for no contact and stay busy with new activities. Practice self-compassion, avoid the comparison trap, and recognize the need to grieve and heal.
Understanding Attachment Styles in Breakups
Attachment styles influence how individuals handle breakups. Anxious individuals may seek reassurance, while avoidant types detach quickly. Secure individuals handle breakups with balance, trust in themselves and others, and detach from old patterns. Fearful avoidants oscillate between closeness and pushing people away. Recognizing triggers and building deeper connections with friends or through therapy can help avoidants. Reflect on attachment styles and work on building self-esteem and self-soothing techniques.
Tending to Your Inner Child and Self-Esteem
After a breakup, it is essential to tend to your inner child and focus on rebuilding self-esteem. Acknowledge your feelings, speak to yourself with self-compassion, and visualize comforting your inner child. Engage in activities that evoke comfort and remind yourself of your worth. Set boundaries to protect your inner child and practice self-care. Limit contact with your ex and avoid comparing yourself to others. Practice self-compassion and avoid blaming yourself for the breakup, acknowledging that you did the best you could with the information you had.
Practical Tips and Tools for No Contact
Practical tips for maintaining no contact include deleting and blocking their number, limiting social media interactions, talking to supportive people, and seeking professional help. Stay busy with new activities and focus on self-growth. Remind yourself of your reasons for no contact and the negative aspects of the relationship. Journaling can be beneficial for processing emotions and validating your experience. Stay strong and practice self-control in maintaining no contact.
On this weeks episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina goes over how to handle a breakup, how different attachment styles handle breakups, why no contact is so important after a breakup and how to rebuild your self esteem.
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