352. Greatest Hits: Is It All My Fault? & Other Questions
Jul 25, 2024
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Explore the complexities of thought work and personal responsibility, debunk the idea that every feeling stems from our own thoughts, learn about managing anger and the relationship between external circumstances and personal reactions, and discover the importance of community support for habit change and self-reflection on relationships and parenthood.
Recognize fight response in anger, use regulation tools for rational thinking.
Distinguish between external events and internal reactions to challenge fault attributions.
Deep dives
Handling Anger Through Emotional Regulation
When experiencing strong anger, the podcast host emphasizes the importance of not acting impulsively and recognizing the fight response triggered by the nervous system. By using emotional and nervous system regulation tools, the host acknowledges the temporary nature of intense emotions and focuses on allowing the feeling to pass before employing thoughtful coaching and thought work tools for rational thinking.
Causation vs. Blame in Personal Experiences
In addressing the question of fault in one's experiences and emotions, the podcast reframes the concept by distinguishing between external circumstances and personal reactions. While external events may not always be linked to personal thinking, individual reactions and emotions stem from internal cognition and nervous system responses. This distinction aims to challenge the notion of blame and emphasizes the acceptance of varying emotional responses without attributing fault.
Embracing Growth and Parental Role Decisions
Reflecting on the decision to embrace a more involved intimate partnership with parental responsibilities, the podcast host shares personal insights on the motivations behind the choice. Despite initial hesitations and concerns about societal norms, the decision was driven by a desire for personal growth, self-development, and the opportunity to explore new experiences. By consciously integrating into a semi-parental role, the host aims to navigate challenges and learn from the evolving dynamics of this familial relationship.
There's one big question most people brush up against when they start learning about thought work: "Is everything my fault? These are MY Thoughts, after all!" The answer isn't as simple as it may seem, and I'm showing you why this week.
Join me for this Greatest Hits episode where you'll expand your understanding of thought work, discover the flaws in coaching yourself through anger, and learn a crucial question to ask yourself if you tend to get caught up in other people's models. Now grab your headphones and let's dive in!