Exploring Reactivity and its Connection to Self-Identity

Reactivity, which refers to the immediate and habitual series of events that follow a trigger, is an ingrained aspect of the human experience. It doesn't disappear with insight or awakening, but can become even more apparent. The reactivity arises from an underlying conditioned belief that things should have been different or that we could have done something differently. This triggers an urge to react, which can manifest externally or internally. By sitting with the trigger, observing the feeling in the body and the urge to react, and questioning the need for reaction, we can begin to dissolve the belief that fuels reactivity. This process involves recognizing that we are not separate selves with control over outcomes, and that reactivity simply generates suffering. Over time, with practice and patience, reactivity can be reduced and responses can replace reactions.