Before Breakfast Setting boundaries when there's too much to do, with Amy Wilson
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Jan 8, 2025 Amy Wilson, co-host of 'What Fresh Hell?' and author of 'Happy to Help,' dives into the complexities of people pleasing and establishing boundaries. She shares insights from her eighth-grade diary, illustrating her lifelong journey with the desire to make others happy. The discussion includes strategies for managing overwhelm and the challenges of 'eldest daughter syndrome.' Amy emphasizes the need for self-care and realistic planning, advocating for embracing discomfort to find balance and happiness.
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Eighth-Grade Diary
- Amy Wilson's eighth-grade diary revealed a lifelong pattern of people-pleasing.
- This "happy helper" identity stemmed from being the eldest of six and feeling responsible for others' happiness.
Eldest Daughter Syndrome
- "Eldest daughter syndrome" shapes people-pleasing tendencies, especially for those with many younger siblings.
- Wilson, the oldest of six and oldest of 25 cousins, developed a strong helper identity early on.
Embrace the Silence
- Prepare for uncomfortable silence after saying no, as others adjust to the change.
- Resist the urge to fill the silence or offer alternatives, allowing the boundary to solidify.
