How to Belong (it’s not what you think) | Sebene Selassie
Aug 17, 2023
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Sebene Selassie, author of You Belong, shares insights on finding true belonging by connecting within ourselves. The podcast explores the paradoxes of oneness and separation, the relationship between Eastern traditions and the music scene in DC, and the importance of holding fluid identities. It also discusses the significance of meditation in developing clarity and connecting with the body as a path to a good life.
Belonging starts within ourselves through self-discovery, releasing fears and traumas, and embracing authenticity.
Uncovering and addressing unconscious biases is crucial for greater empathy and understanding of ourselves and others.
Connecting with our bodies and embracing impermanence fosters a deeper sense of belonging and appreciation for life.
Deep dives
The Paradox of Belonging
Belonging is a paradoxical concept that involves both absolute truth and relative truth. The absolute truth is that we are all interconnected, while the relative truth is that we are separate beings with distinct identities. To truly belong, we must grapple with this paradox and understand the interplay between our interconnectedness and our individuality.
Knowing and Accepting Ourselves
In order to belong, we must first belong to ourselves. This requires doing the work of self-discovery, exploring our inner landscape, and understanding our needs, desires, and values. It also involves acknowledging and releasing our fears and traumas, avoiding spiritual bypassing, and working with our shadows. By getting to know ourselves deeply, we can show up in the world with clarity and authenticity.
Exploring Unconscious Conditioning
Unconscious bias and societal conditioning shape our thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors without us even realizing it. To truly understand ourselves and others, we must explore and uncover these unconscious biases. This involves deep self-reflection, meditation, and therapy, as well as engaging in honest conversations and self-study. By doing this work, we can develop greater empathy, compassion, and understanding for ourselves and others.
Embodying Belonging Through the Body
Belonging is not just an intellectual pursuit, it requires connecting with our bodies. By developing a somatic awareness and being present in our bodies, we can release tension, trauma, and pain. Embracing pleasure and joy in our bodies is also crucial for experiencing a sense of freedom and belonging. Cultivating an embodied approach to life allows us to fully inhabit ourselves and connect with others and the world around us.
Embracing Impermanence and Belonging
Acknowledging the impermanence of life, including illness, old age, and death, is essential for a sense of belonging. By embracing impermanence, we can let go of the illusion of control, live fully in the present moment, and appreciate the preciousness of life. Recognizing that we all share the common fate of mortality can lead to a greater appreciation for ourselves and others, and a deeper sense of belonging.
Discover the profound insights of belonging in our latest episode, where we unravel the enigma of connection with Sebene Selassie, author of You Belong: A Call for Connection. Dive into a conversation filled with self-discovery, love, and a universal sense of belonging:
A Personal Journey: From feeling like a "big weirdo" in Washington, D.C. to a celebrated teacher and speaker, Selassie's unique story is an invitation to explore our own sense of belonging.
An Inspiring Revelation: Learn how belonging starts within, and why knowing and connecting with ourselves is the first step to embracing the world.
Ancient Wisdom & Modern Practices: Unlock the secrets of ancient traditions and contemporary contemplative practices that reconnect us to truths of belonging.
Healing from Trauma: Explore the methods to unlock trauma from the body, creating space for grace and growth.
This episode isn't just about fitting in; it's about cultivating a deeper sense of connection within ourselves and the world.
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