The Mel Robbins Podcast It’s Not You: Why Your Family Stresses You Out & What To Do About It
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Dec 22, 2025 
Dr. Marielle Bouquet, a Columbia-trained psychologist and bestselling author, dives deep into the stress and trauma surrounding family dynamics. She explains how each sibling experiences their home differently and how the role of the eldest daughter often becomes a burden into adulthood. Bouquet shares practical tools to handle family gatherings, including the importance of self-validation and daily healing practices. She emphasizes the need for compassion toward parents while setting boundaries and highlights the significance of breaking generational pain.
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Family Pain Is Often Intergenerational
- Many family tensions come from unprocessed wounds passed across generations.
- You didn't create the dynamic but you can change its trajectory through your own healing.
It's Never Too Late To Start Healing
- You can heal at any age; change is possible even in your 80s.
- Choosing to heal reduces your suffering and models a different legacy for future generations.
Siblings Experience The Same House Differently
- No two siblings experience the same family; roles, gender, and birth order shape different wounds.
- Eldest daughters often become parentified, carrying lifelong burdens and expectations.