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Psychotherapist reveals Hidden Impact of Childhood Attachment on Your Love Life | Ep13 | I Wish You Knew

Feb 2, 2024

Psychotherapist Jessica Baum discusses the impact of childhood attachment on adult relationships. Topics include: why we are attracted to the familiar, choosing partners that are bad for us, identifying attachment wounds, replaying childhood trauma, the anxious-avoidant relationship, becoming observers of our nervous system, and choosing the right partner.

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Quick takeaways

Understanding our childhood attachment patterns is crucial for forming secure and stable adult relationships.

Attachment wounds from early experiences shape our responses to intimacy and connection.

Attachment styles are not solely determined by gender, but can be influenced by cultural expectations and intergenerational patterns.

Deep dives

Recognizing the Importance of Understanding and Healing Behaviors

Understanding ourselves deeply allows us to make sense of our behaviors and shift into a more compassionate place. By grasping the concept of interpersonal neurobiology, we can comprehend how our adaptations and survival strategies influence our behavior and develop compassion for ourselves and others.

Introduction

2min

Understanding Attachment Theory and its Impact on Relationships

2min

The Impact of Childhood Attachment on Love Life and Gender Differences

5min

Attachment Theory and Insecure Attachment

17min

Finding a Safe Space and the Impact of Healing on Relationships

5min

Healing Attachment Issues in Romantic Relationships and Friendships

23min

🎙️ Welcome back to another episode of the "I Wish You Knew" podcast! Today Adam and Sarah sit down with Jessica Baum to dive into the neurobiology behind attachment, how our childhood serves as a blueprint for how we connect and how it affects our relationships in adulthood. It all boils down to our nervous system. Becoming an observer of our nervous system will help us form more secure and stable relationships.

🌟Here’s what to look out for in the episode:

Why are we attracted to the familiar?
Why do we choose people that are bad for us?
How can we identify our attachment wounds?
Why do we replay our childhood trauma in our adult relationships?
How do our early developmental attachment issues change our nervous system and affect our ability to connect?
What makes the anxious-avoidant relationship such a magnetic attraction?
How do we become observers of our nervous system?
How to choose the right partner and steer the relationship at a healthy pace?

If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to check out out episode about Dating Games : https://youtu.be/QCDIUq573B4?si=Me_V3nF7ikwBW5Jo

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Website: https://www.beselffull.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicabaumlmhc/?hl=en

Jessica’s Book “Anxiously Attached”: Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love

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