The Art of Manliness Ouch! That Stings! Why Rejection Hurts So Much (And How to Deal With It)
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Oct 28, 2024 Mark Leary, a psychology and neuroscience professor at Duke University, dives into the complexities of social rejection. He explores why rejection hurts so deeply, both emotionally and physically. Leary discusses the sociometer concept, which tracks our perceived social value and influences our sensitivity to acceptance and rejection. He also addresses how cultural factors shape male responses to rejection and the potential for aggressive behaviors stemming from feelings of exclusion. Finally, Mark offers practical strategies for managing rejection with empathy and resilience.
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Subjective Rejection
- Rejection is a subjective experience of feeling inadequately valued in a relationship.
- Different people interpret behaviors differently, so what one person considers rejection, another might not.
Sensitivity to Rejection
- Everyone experiences rejection and has some reaction to it.
- Humans are sensitive to rejection because it was crucial for survival during evolutionary history.
Emotions of Rejection
- Hurt feelings are the primary emotion associated with rejection, stemming from feeling undervalued.
- Other emotions like sadness, anger, anxiety, and loneliness can also arise depending on the context and consequences.
