#12 Dr. Paul Eastwick and Eli Finkel - What Red Pill Gets Wrong About Attraction

Dr. Paul Eastwick and Eli Finkel are two of America's most prominent psychologists studying mate preferences and romantic relationships. In a world where the red pill has adopted evolutionary biology to support ideas of mate value and hypergamy, I wanted to understand what the research really says about mating and dating. We also discussed which partner preferences women overstate the importance of, how to date from a place of strength, and good/bad portrayals of romantic love in movies. Follow Gent Z on socials: Instagram:   / james.gentz   TikTok:   / gent.z.style   Paul and Eli's Love Factually podcast - https://lovefactually.substack.com/ Eli's book, The All-Or-Nothing Marriage - https://amzn.to/40Ih81A00:00 The Importance of Smell in Attraction 02:39 Stated vs. Revealed Preferences in Dating 05:47 The Role of Types in Romantic Preferences 08:46 Gender Differences in Dating Preferences 11:44 The Impact of Expectations on Relationships 14:47 The Flexibility of Preferences Over Time 17:47 The Dangers of Rigid Dating Criteria 20:43 The Influence of Life Changes on Relationships 23:38 The Role of Compatibility in Long-Term Relationships 26:45 The Balance Between Goals and Flexibility in Dating 34:07 The Erosion of Relationship Preferences 36:21 The Core of Long-Term Relationships 37:46 Romantic Films and Relationship Science 40:24 The Illusion of the Perfect Partner 41:38 The Variability of Attraction 45:24 The Impact of Choice on Dating 47:16 Dating in the Age of Apps 50:16 The Challenge of Commitment 51:52 Dating from Strength vs. Weakness 56:00 The Right Amount of Choice in Dating 01:01:42 Exploring Film and Desire 01:08:05 Kink, Morality, and Power Dynamics 01:15:39 The Evolution of Marriage and Relationships 01:18:27 The Impact of Evolutionary Psychology on Relationships 01:25:43 Navigating Modern Relationships and Male Bonding