Kristen Carder, Host of the I Have ADHD podcast, and the host discuss the challenges of consistency with ADHD, letting go of perfectionism, gaining perspective and evaluating priorities, recognizing the need for support and strategies when managing ADHD, embracing inconsistency, and the importance of effective reminders.
Embrace inconsistency and focus on persistence instead of striving for perfect consistency with ADHD.
Set realistic goals and practice persistence rather than aiming for constant consistency in order to avoid feelings of failure and self-judgment with ADHD.
Deep dives
Embracing Inconsistency as an ADHDer
Consistency may be seen as crucial for success in various aspects of life, but for individuals with ADHD, it can be a challenging and unrealistic expectation. In this podcast episode, the host explores the idea of embracing inconsistency and shifting the focus to persistence instead. Rather than striving for perfect consistency, it is more important to understand and accept our own inconsistent nature. Setting unrealistic expectations can lead to feelings of failure and self-judgment. By reframing our mindset and acknowledging the ebb and flow of our energy, mental health, and external circumstances, we can set more achievable goals and build strategies that support our unique needs and abilities. Being persistent in trying and failing, and giving ourselves the grace to start anew, can ultimately lead to progress and success.
The Fallacy of Consistency and ADHD
The belief that consistency is the key to success is prevalent in society, but this podcast challenges that notion, especially for individuals with ADHD. Consistency is often difficult to achieve due to the nature of ADHD, and striving for it can lead to feelings of shame and self-judgment when we inevitably fall short. The host emphasizes the need to abandon the idea of perfect consistency and instead focus on persistence. While consistency may be unattainable, being persistent and resilient in our pursuits can lead to progress. Recognizing that ADHD brings its own unique challenges and embracing our individuality allows us to let go of unrealistic expectations and be kinder to ourselves in our journey towards success.
Adjusting Expectations for ADHD Success
In this episode, the host addresses the issue of setting unrealistic expectations for individuals with ADHD, particularly the expectation of consistency. Consistency is often seen as the benchmark for success, but it can be especially challenging for those with ADHD. When we fail to meet these expectations, we tend to spiral into self-blame and self-doubt. However, the host encourages listeners to reframe their thinking and cultivate persistence rather than aiming for perfect consistency. This means acknowledging our inconsistent nature and giving ourselves grace when we experience setbacks. By understanding our limitations and building supportive strategies, we can move towards our goals in a way that aligns with our neurodivergent experience.
The Power of Persistence for ADHDers
Consistency is often perceived as the key to success, but this podcast challenges that notion for individuals with ADHD. Instead, the host highlights the importance of persistence. While consistency may be elusive for those with ADHD, being persistent in our endeavors is achievable. It is essential to recognize that striving for constant consistency only sets us up for feelings of failure and self-judgment. By adjusting our mindset and embracing the natural ebb and flow of our energy and focus, we can navigate our goals with more resilience and self-compassion. The key lies in being willing to start fresh, try, fail, and try again until we ultimately reach our desired outcomes.
Hey team, this week I’m talking with Kristen Carder, the host of the I Have ADHD podcast - in this episode, we dive into the nitty gritty of ADHD and how advice for neurotypicals often doesn’t work for those of us with ADHD. We often hear about the need to be consistent, but with ADHD, not only is that hard, it can feel downright impossible. Instead, Kristen and I discuss how we can embrace our inconsistency and instead focus on being persistent. Support me on Patreon Ask me a question on my Contact Page Find the show note at HackingYourADHD.com/138
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