Dr. Lori Brotto, a leading expert in women’s sexual health from UBC, sheds light on the surprising disconnect many women feel between physical arousal and orgasm. She discusses the impact of societal pressures and stress on sexual experiences, offering insightful advice on overcoming sexual droughts. Lori empowers listeners to reconnect with their bodies for enhanced pleasure and challenges the myths surrounding female orgasms. The conversation encourages open communication about intimacy, redefining pleasure beyond mere frequency.
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Desire and Relationships
Many women experience sexual desire and arousal challenges.
Decreased desire doesn't indicate a relationship problem, it's often a natural biological and conditioned response to familiarity.
insights INSIGHT
Impact of Internalized Beliefs
Internalized beliefs and societal messages about sex significantly impact women's sexual experiences.
These beliefs, often rooted in shame and misinformation, can trigger sexual struggles.
question_answer ANECDOTE
Glennon's Experience
Glennon Doyle shares her personal struggle with compartmentalizing anger towards societal treatment of women during sex.
This anger created a disconnect in her sex life within her first marriage.
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In 'Better Sex Through Mindfulness', Dr. Lori Brotto explores how mindfulness can enhance sexual experiences by increasing awareness and presence. The book offers practical exercises to help individuals overcome sexual difficulties such as low desire and pain, promoting a more fulfilling and pleasurable sexual life. Dr. Brotto emphasizes the importance of the mind in sexual responses and provides evidence-based mindfulness practices to cultivate desire and intimacy.
Untamed
Glennon Doyle
In 'Untamed', Glennon Doyle shares her personal journey of breaking free from the societal and cultural expectations that had defined her life. The book is divided into three parts: 'Caged', 'Keys', and 'Free'. Doyle discusses her struggles with eating disorders, addiction, and her initial marriage, as well as her transformative experience of falling in love with Abby Wambach, a retired professional soccer player. The memoir explores themes of self-discovery, empowerment, and the importance of trusting one's own voice and intuition. Doyle reflects on her experiences with gender roles, mental health, and cultural conditioning, encouraging readers to reject the status quo and live more authentically. The book is both an intimate memoir and a galvanizing call to action, urging readers to set boundaries, honor their emotions, and embrace their truest selves[2][4][5].
1. The shocking revelation that many women experience physical arousal but can’t reach orgasm because we are so “stuck” in our heads that we don’t even register it.
2. Glennon and Abby share about their periodic sexual droughts – and Dr. Brotto gives them (us) advice.
3. The biggest predictors of sexual problems for women – including stress/compulsive multitasking – and how to address them.
4. How to know if you are disconnecting from your body during sex, and how to reintegrate to increase your pleasure.
About Dr. Brotto
Dr. Lori Brotto is a Professor in the UBC Department of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, where she holds a Canada Research Chair in Women’s Sexual Health. She is also the Executive Director for the Women’s Health Research Institute—one of only three institutes in Canada devoted to advancing research in women’s health, and maintains an active practice as a Registered Psychologist. Dr. Brotto was recently featured in the Netflix series The Principles of Pleasure, and is the author of Better Sex through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire and forthcoming The Better Sex through Mindfulness Workbook: A Guide to Cultivating Desire.
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