Shoda and Ollie, hosts of the Mindfully ADHD podcast, discuss the power of radical self-acceptance and share how they work together to live an ADHD-friendly life. They also talk about the challenges of transitioning from Dubai to the UK, the impact of ADHD diagnosis, the struggles of maintaining routines and nighttime routines, and the importance of connecting with others and finding resources.
Finding unique strategies that work for the individual and accepting that these strategies may change over time is key in managing ADHD.
Having a shared language and mental model as a couple with ADHD fosters empathy and understanding and helps navigate challenges effectively.
Deep dives
Living with ADHD: A Creative Component
Living with ADHD involves a creative component, according to Shoda and Ali, a married couple with ADHD who host the podcast Mindfully ADHD. They discuss the importance of self-acceptance, especially in a society that values neurotypical standards. They emphasize that finding unique strategies that work for the individual is key and that it's okay if those strategies change over time. They also highlight the importance of having a shared language and mental model as a couple with ADHD, which helps foster empathy and understanding.
The Challenges of Transitioning and Relocating
Shoda and Ali share their experiences transitioning from living in Dubai to London. They discuss the differences in mental health services and facilities between the two places, highlighting the limited support available for ADHD in Dubai compared to the UK. They also mention how the change in environment and weather can affect their well-being. Overall, the transition has been challenging, but the couple relies on their shared understanding and communication to navigate these difficulties.
Navigating ADHD Journey and Diagnosis
Shoda was diagnosed with ADHD at a young age, thanks to her mother, who is a developmental pediatrician. On the other hand, Ali was diagnosed much later in life, at the age of 24, after they got married. They discuss the importance of self-awareness and acceptance in understanding and managing their ADHD symptoms. They also acknowledge the societal emphasis on intelligence and the struggles they faced due to internalized ableism, especially in academic settings.
Being a Couple with ADHD: Unique Challenges and Strategies
As a couple with ADHD, Shoda and Ali share their experiences and strategies for navigating their daily lives together. They highlight the need for self-compassion, acceptance, and radical self-acceptance in order to reduce the shame and frustration that can arise from ADHD-related challenges. They also discuss how they support each other in areas where their ADHD symptoms overlap and how they divide tasks based on their individual strengths and preferences.
We welcome our first couple with ADHD on this week's podcast. Shoda and Ollie host a podcast called Mindfully ADHD, where they try different strategies and dissect how well they worked.
They join us to discuss the power of radical self acceptance and share the ways they work together to live an ADHD-friendly life.
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