The Art of Manliness

Advice on Making Love Last . . . From a Divorce Lawyer

Aug 16, 2023

James Sexton, a divorce lawyer from NYC and author, shares his unique insights into marriage from the frontlines of divorce. He reveals five types of infidelity he frequently encounters and offers practical strategies to prevent affairs. The discussion dives into common marital conflicts, including communication around sex, finances, and parenting. Sexton emphasizes the importance of small gestures and attentiveness in nurturing relationships, proving that proactive care and honest dialogue can strengthen love and connection in marriage.

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Maintaining an active and vigilant connection with your partner through small gestures and regular communication can help prevent infidelity.

When there is a mismatch in sexual desires or preferences, open communication becomes crucial.

Money can be a major source of marital conflict, rooted in trust and communication.

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Maintaining Connection to Prevent Infidelity

Maintaining an active and vigilant connection with your partner through small gestures and regular communication can help prevent infidelity. Paying attention to the small things, such as leaving a note or showing gratitude, can build happiness and goodwill between partners. Creating intimacy and avoiding disconnect in the relationship is key.

Definition of intimacy. Being able to truly be yourself around someone.

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The Importance of Kindness

01:57

The State of Divorce in America Today

01:56

Understanding the Dance of Trust and Submission in Relationships

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Intro

3min

A Unique Path to Family Law

3min

The Divorce Dilemma: Understanding Trends and Complexities

23min

The Importance of Small Gestures in Maintaining Relationship Connection

6min

Nurturing Love: Sustaining Relationships

8min

Navigating Infidelity and Emotional Connection

10min

Navigating Financial Conflicts in Marriage

17min

Nurturing Love: The Key to a Fulfilling Marriage

3min

If you want insight on how to make love last, you might ask friends, family, a therapist, or a pastor for advice. You probably wouldn't think to turn to a divorce lawyer. But my guest, James Sexton, who does that very job in New York City, says there may be few people who have a better perspective on how to hold a marriage together, than the guy who's got a front row seat to how they fall apart.

James is the author of If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late: A Divorce Lawyer's Guide to Staying Together, and today on the show he shares what he's learned from overseeing over a thousand divorces that you can use to reverse engineer a relationship that lasts. We discuss the five types of infidelity James sees in his practice and the approach to marriage that will prevent affairs. We then get into common sources of conflict in a marriage, including sex, finances, and kids, and how to address these issues so you never end up in James', or any other divorce lawyer's, office.

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The Art of Manliness

Advice on Making Love Last . . . From a Divorce Lawyer

Episode guests

Podcast summary created with Snipd AI

Quick takeaways

Deep dives

Maintaining Connection to Prevent Infidelity

Addressing Mismatched Sexual Needs

The Importance of Sex in a Marriage

Mutual Submission and Compromise

Maintaining a healthy marriage

Money and marriage

Definition of intimacy. Being able to truly be yourself around someone.

The Importance of Kindness

The State of Divorce in America Today

Understanding the Dance of Trust and Submission in Relationships

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Connect With James Sexton

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The Art of Manliness

Advice on Making Love Last . . . From a Divorce Lawyer

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Deep dives

Maintaining Connection to Prevent Infidelity

Addressing Mismatched Sexual Needs

The Importance of Sex in a Marriage

Mutual Submission and Compromise

Maintaining a healthy marriage

Money and marriage

Definition of intimacy. Being able to truly be yourself around someone.

The Importance of Kindness

The State of Divorce in America Today

Understanding the Dance of Trust and Submission in Relationships

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Connect With James Sexton

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