The Mel Robbins Podcast

Harvard Psychologist Shares 6 Words That Will Change Your Family

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Dec 16, 2024
Dr. Stuart Ablon is an award-winning psychologist and Harvard professor specializing in challenging behavior. He shares transformative insights on handling relationships, viewing behavioral issues as skill deficits rather than malice. Dr. Ablon emphasizes the importance of empathy and flexible thinking, advocating for collaborative problem-solving techniques. He introduces three strategic plans for navigating difficult scenarios and discusses the role of effective communication in family dynamics. This enlightening conversation offers practical tools for fostering understanding and emotional growth in any relationship.
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INSIGHT

Challenging Behavior Source

  • People often attribute challenging behavior to lack of motivation.
  • Actually, challenging behavior stems from lacking skills like problem-solving or flexibility.
INSIGHT

Skill Deficit, Not Willpower

  • Individuals struggling with behavior don't lack willpower, but specific skills.
  • These skills include problem-solving, flexibility, and frustration tolerance.
ANECDOTE

Sticker Chart Failure

  • Dr. Ablon shares a story about a student using a sticker chart.
  • The student's self-deprecating letter revealed her struggle wasn't motivation, but internalized negativity.
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