This Tantric Life with Layla Martin Attunement, Empathy, and Connection: Learn the “Soft” Skills of Sex
Aug 24, 2025
In this conversation with somatic educator Steven Jaggers, learn about the transformative power of connection over mere healing. He emphasizes how to articulate feelings through body awareness and the importance of attunement in relationships. Jaggers explains why understanding our internal presence fosters deeper emotional bonds. He also discusses the interplay of breathwork and emotional resilience, revealing how this practice enhances authenticity and connection in intimacy.
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Meta Skills Trump Technique
- Meta skills like alignment, attunement and range determine practitioner quality more than protocols or techniques.
- Breath is the state-switch tool but meta skills shape how effectively breathwork helps others.
Connection Enables Integration
- Focus on connection rather than obsessively pursuing 'healing' because healing flows from embodied connection.
- Integration often happens through relational experiences like sex and co-regulation.
Map Body Then Emotion Then Story
- Start somatic awareness from the body then move to emotion and story to avoid conflating sensations with narratives.
- Occupy all parts of your body so you can accurately name and communicate what you feel.
