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Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras

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Sep 25, 2025

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Evy Poumpouras

Evy Poumpouras, a former U.S. Secret Service Special Agent and bestselling author, dives deep into the complexities of authenticity in the workplace. She argues that being 'real' may undermine leadership, advocating for a professional persona instead. Evy shares elite strategies for emotional control and effective communication. She reveals a psychology trick for gaining respect, uncovers the truth about spotting lies, and highlights the importance of small, consistent challenges in building confidence. Tune in for transformative insights!

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ADVICE

Leave Authenticity At The Door

Don't bring your "authentic self" to work; bring your professional, respectful, competent self instead.
Prioritize team value over personal expression so the group performs at a high standard.

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INSIGHT

Lighten Your Cognitive Bathtub

Treat cognitive load like a bathtub: remove decisions to avoid overflow and decision fatigue.
Lighten your mental load so you can perform fewer tasks exceptionally well.

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INSIGHT

Past Is Context, Not Prison

Playing the victim or over-justifying past events renders you powerless and stops progress.
Use past events as context, then decide what to change moving forward.

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People Often Prefer Validation Over Change

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When You Can't Change Someone, Don't Try

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Iceberg Model: People Are More Than Their Surface

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How Confidence Truly Forms

30:47 • 8min

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Learning to Self-Regulate Emotions

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Don't Bring Your Authentic Self to Work

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Build Trust by Listening, Not Performing

44:50 • 5min

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Are Women or Men Better at Spotting Lies?

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Practical Steps to Build Confidence

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Progress Comes From Small, Consistent Steps

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Voice, Timing, and Pauses Command Respect

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Fight with Facts When Emotions Escalate

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How to Be Unprovokable

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Avoid Low-Vibration People and Protect Your Circle

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Predators Target Easier, Not Showy, Victims

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Becoming Bulletproof

Evy Poumpouras

Evy Poumpouras's "Becoming Bulletproof" offers practical strategies for managing fear and building resilience. Drawing on her extensive experience in the Secret Service, she provides insights into human behavior, threat assessment, and stress management. The book emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, situational awareness, and proactive risk mitigation. Poumpouras encourages readers to develop coping mechanisms for stressful situations and to cultivate a mindset of confidence and fearlessness. The book is structured as a practical guide, encouraging readers to actively apply the techniques and strategies discussed.

Is Authenticity Quietly KILLING Your Career?

Former Secret Agent Evy Poumpouras reveals how being “real” at work can SABOTAGE your leadership, and breaks down elite strategies for emotional control, communication, confidence, and power.

Evy Poumpouras is a former U.S. Secret Service Special Agent, NBC Crime & Law Enforcement Analyst, and bestselling author of Becoming Bulletproof. She protected U.S. Presidents, interrogated high-risk criminals, and learned first-hand how the world’s most powerful leaders control emotion, command respect, and stay composed under pressure.

In this groundbreaking episode, she explains:

◼️The 1 psychology trick that instantly makes people respect you

◼️Why you shouldn’t care about people’s feelings

◼️The 5 habits you must get rid of to earn influence

◼️How to tell if someone is lying to you

◼️Why most people stay miserable forever

(00:00) Intro

(02:24) Why People Are Drawn to Your Mission

(05:23) People Waste Time Overthinking Instead of Changing

(09:33) Forget About The Past

(12:37) Being Stuck in the Identity You’ve Built

(18:59) The Secondary Game: Why People Don’t Overcome Problems

(25:10) You Can’t Change People

(30:16) How Steve Builds His Confidence

(35:44) Stop Being Driven by Fear

(38:37) How to Self-Regulate Your Emotions

(40:25) Should You Be Your Authentic Self at Work?

(49:17) Which Gender Tells Lies Better?

(51:27) How to Build Confidence

(57:07) Why Small Challenges Matter More Than Big Ones

(1:03:08) Lessons From the Best Decision Makers

(1:10:25) Ads

(1:11:23) Why Your Tone of Voice Matters

(1:18:46) The Importance of Body Language

(1:38:12) Dealing With Offensive People

(1:44:26) How to Become Unprovokable

(1:55:36) How Friends Influence Who You Are

(1:57:29) Ads

(2:03:51) How Poor Performers Impact the Team

(2:07:18) Why You Might Look Like an Easy Target

(2:20:31) Charlie Kirk and Threats on Social Platforms

(2:23:59) How Social Media Reduces Empathy

(2:30:44) School and Mass Shootings

(2:36:09) Could Anything Have Prevented Charlie Kirk’s Death?

(2:41:18) What Are You Most Afraid Of?

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