The One Where I Talk To Author & Life Coach, Kara Loewentheil

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Dec 2, 2025

In this enlightening conversation, Kara Loewentheil, an Ivy League women's rights lawyer turned mindset coach and bestselling author, dives into her transformative journey. She discusses the impact of societal pressures on women's self-worth and the importance of self-compassion. Kara advocates for persistence over consistency in personal growth and emphasizes the power of thought work. She explores the significance of a healthy self-relationship, confidence as a skill, and the freedom that comes with singlehood, offering invaluable insights for anyone seeking personal empowerment.

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ANECDOTE

Leap From Law To Coaching

Cara Lowenthal left a legal career and running a Columbia think tank to become a life coach overnight.
She describes the leap as courageous, driven by mission and a new passion for the human mind.

INSIGHT

The Brain Gap Explains Singlehood Shame

Society programs women to equate value with being chosen and partnered, creating a 'brain gap' between belief and programming.
Cara calls this early socialisation the root of many subconscious conflicts about singlehood.

ADVICE

Start With Awareness And Self-Compassion

Surface the subconscious thoughts that create shame and pair that with self-compassion before trying to rewire them.
Use awareness plus self-compassion to change shameful thoughts incrementally.

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I am beyond excited about my guest on the podcast this week because she's someone I've been wanting to interview for a loooong time! A New York Times bestselling author, Ivy League women's rights lawyer turned life coach, and host of the Unfu*k Your Brain podcast, she is none other than Kara Loewentheil.

In our conversation, Kara shares her journey from law to life coaching, and emphasises the significance of thought work and self-compassion in overcoming societal pressures and internalised shame. We explore confidence as a crucial skill set for creating a life that aligns with one's true desires, rather than conforming to limiting societal norms. Kara also talks about why she prefers the term persistence to consistency in the realm of personal development, and we also explore the importance of cultivating a strong relationship with oneself. This episode is packed with practical advice and insights for anyone looking to embrace and thrive in their single life.

05:25 Kara's Journey from Lawyer to Life Coach

09:45 The Impact of Society on Single Women

14:41 Understanding and Overcoming Shame

18:18 The Power of Thought Work

20:53 Consistency vs. Persistency in Thought Work

23:26 Affirmations and Repetition

26:29 Thoughts Are Not Facts

29:37 The Importance of Inner Work

30:38 Embrace Friction in a Tech-Driven World

31:30 The Importance of Self-Reflection and Personal Growth

32:46 Navigating Relationships and Self-Worth

34:17 The Reality of Marriage and Emotional Availability

35:59 The Illusion of Achieving Happiness Through Milestones

37:34 Cultivating Contentment and Emotional Availability

39:03 The Challenges and Rewards of Intimacy

47:38 Empowering Women to Live Their Best Lives

50:48 The Core of Confidence and Self-Actualisation

53:31 Final Thoughts and Words of Wisdom

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Buy Kara's book, Take Back Your Brain: https://www.takebackyourbrainbook.com/

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