Dr. John Delony, mental health expert and author, discusses anxiety as a smoke detector, identifying bad behaviors, building a non-anxious life, and choosing reality, connection, freedom, mindfulness, and belief. They also explore loneliness vs. solitude, the impact of the nervous system, and seeking guidance. The importance of trusted relationships, attachment, and taking inventory are emphasized. The chapter ends with reflections on growth and authenticity.
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Quick takeaways
Choosing reality involves facing the truth and acknowledging the current situation in your life.
Practicing mindfulness helps reduce anxiety and promotes grounding by accepting the present moment without judgment.
Building supportive relationships is essential for mental and emotional well-being, providing a sense of belonging and support.
Engaging in self-care activities prioritizes well-being and addresses imbalances in physical, mental, and emotional health.
Deep dives
Choose Reality
Choosing reality means taking an inventory of your current situation, facing the truth, and acknowledging what is going on in your life.
Practice Mindfulness
Practicing mindfulness involves being aware of the present moment and accepting it without judgment. This helps you stay grounded and reduces anxiety.
Build Supportive Relationships
Building supportive relationships involves connecting with others and fostering meaningful connections that provide a sense of belonging and support.
Engage in Self-Care
Engaging in self-care activities helps prioritize your well-being and address any imbalances in your physical, mental, and emotional health.
The Importance of Seeking Help and Support
Seeking help from coaches, therapists, or trusted individuals is essential for personal growth and development. Whether it's a coach guiding you in improving your marriage or a therapist helping you navigate through life's challenges, having an objective third party can offer valuable insights and support.
The Power of Connection and Community
Building strong connections and being part of a community is crucial for mental, physical, and relational well-being. Loneliness can have significant negative impacts on health, comparable to smoking. Choosing connection involves reaching out to others, building relationships, and recognizing the importance of social support.
Choosing Freedom and Autonomy
Taking ownership of your life and decisions is vital for personal growth and well-being. Breaking free from societal expectations, financial pressures, and external influences allows individuals to prioritize their values and set boundaries. Choosing freedom involves embracing autonomy and making decisions that align with personal values and beliefs.
In this episode Sal, Adam & Justin speak with national best-selling author, mental health expert and host of The Dr. John Delony Show, Dr. John Delony.
Anxiety is NOT your problem. Anxiety is just trying to get your ATTENTION. (2:15)
What makes anxiety so addictive? (4:19)
How anxiety is a smoke detector in your kitchen. (6:54)
How to identify bad behaviors. (11:04)
Your body would be FAILING you if you didn’t recognize you were lonely. (14:22)
The quiet life of desperation. (17:09)
Practice by SHOWING up. (22:33)
Learning how to shift and become a safe house. (25:08)
Go first and just be weird. (29:01)
How we are communicating and NOT connecting. (38:27)
The dangers of self-diagnosing yourself. (42:02)
Stopping the ‘shame spiral’. (46:35)
The steps to building a non-anxious life. (50:57)
#1 – Choose reality. (51:42)
#2 – Choose connection. (55:35)
#3 – Choose freedom. (58:26)
#4- Choose mindfulness. (1:01:41)
#5 – Choose belief. (1:03:22)
A major turning point in his life. (1:03:30)
One of the greatest curses of modern masculinity. (1:09:40)
The BIG difference between loneliness and solitude. (1:13:59)
What do I need right now? (1:16:43)
Finding your purpose when things slow down. (1:19:47)
His favorite things about what he does. (1:24:20)
Don’t let your kids hurt your feelings. (1:25:46)
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