2177: How to Build a Non-Anxious Life With Dr. John Delony

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Oct 5, 2023

Dr. John Delony, a bestselling author and mental health expert, dives into the complexities of anxiety and its role as an alarm system rather than the enemy. He discusses how bad behaviors can feed anxiety, the profound difference between loneliness and solitude, and the importance of genuine connections over superficial interactions. Delony offers key steps to cultivating a non-anxious life, emphasizing reality, connection, and mindfulness. With a mix of personal anecdotes and practical advice, he highlights the journey of emotional growth and self-awareness.

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Anxiety as a Signal

Anxiety is not the problem itself, but a signal for other underlying issues.
Address the root causes of anxiety instead of suppressing the feeling.

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Addictive Anxiety

Anxiety can be addictive due to the body's chemical response (cortisol and adrenaline) or the numbing behaviors used to cope.
People can become addicted to both the ramp-up and the deceleration of anxiety.

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Anxiety as a Smoke Detector

Anxiety is like a smoke detector, alerting you to problems in your life.
Ignoring anxiety is like pulling the battery out of a smoke detector—the alarm stops, but the problem remains.

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In this episode Sal, Adam & Justin speak with national best-selling author, mental health expert and host of The Dr. John Delony Show, Dr. John Delony.

Anxiety is NOT your problem. Anxiety is just trying to get your ATTENTION. (2:15)
What makes anxiety so addictive? (4:19)
How anxiety is a smoke detector in your kitchen. (6:54)
How to identify bad behaviors. (11:04)
Your body would be FAILING you if you didn’t recognize you were lonely. (14:22)
The quiet life of desperation. (17:09)
Practice by SHOWING up. (22:33)
Learning how to shift and become a safe house. (25:08)
Go first and just be weird. (29:01)
How we are communicating and NOT connecting. (38:27)
The dangers of self-diagnosing yourself. (42:02)
Stopping the ‘shame spiral’. (46:35)
The steps to building a non-anxious life. (50:57)
#1 – Choose reality. (51:42)
#2 – Choose connection. (55:35)
#3 – Choose freedom. (58:26)
#4- Choose mindfulness. (1:01:41)
#5 – Choose belief. (1:03:22)
A major turning point in his life. (1:03:30)
One of the greatest curses of modern masculinity. (1:09:40)
The BIG difference between loneliness and solitude. (1:13:59)
What do I need right now? (1:16:43)
Finding your purpose when things slow down. (1:19:47)
His favorite things about what he does. (1:24:20)
Don’t let your kids hurt your feelings. (1:25:46)