Building Self-Worth & a Secure Dating Mindset with Dr. Morgan Anderson
Jan 31, 2024
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Dr. Morgan Anderson, licensed clinical psychologist and relationship coach, and Stephanie Rigg discuss building self-worth and a secure dating mindset. Topics include healing childhood trauma, cultivating self-worth, creating boundaries, and expressing gratitude.
Building self-worth and a secure identity is crucial for healthy dating patterns.
Slowing down and pacing emotional investment in relationships aligns with secure attachment.
Deep dives
Building self-worth and secure identity in dating
In this episode, Dr. Morgan Anderson discusses the importance of building self-worth and a secure identity in the context of dating. She emphasizes the need to rewire old patterns and beliefs that keep us stuck in unhealthy relationships. Dr. Morgan shares practical steps, such as self-awareness, processing past wounds, and defining a securely attached identity. She encourages intentional investment in relationships while maintaining healthy boundaries and individuality. The episode highlights the power of self-compassion, reality-testing, and slowly building emotional investment based on secure attachment.
Personal stories as a catalyst for growth
Dr. Morgan shares her personal journey of childhood trauma, painful dating patterns, and finding healing through attachment theory. She emphasizes that personal stories often spark a calling to help others. Stephanie Rigg also shares her experiences of dysfunctional relationships and how they led her to self-exploration and growth. Both speakers highlight the importance of self-awareness and using personal stories as a starting point for healing and transformation.
Recognizing and challenging insecure patterns
Dr. Morgan discusses common patterns she sees in her work, including attracting emotionally unavailable partners and repeating painful dynamics. She works with anxiously attached, avoidantly attached, and disorganized attachment individuals. The focus is on helping individuals take ownership and heal to create healthier relationships. Stephanie Rigg emphasizes the need to challenge insecure patterns and disrupt the cycle by building self-trust and making intentional choices based on self-worth.
Slowing down and intentional dating
The speakers discuss the importance of slowing down during the early stages of dating and avoiding the urge to fast-track or rush relationships. Reality testing and pacing emotional investment are key to building secure attachment. They emphasize that emotional investment should align with the level of secure attachment established in the relationship. Slowing down allows for conscious decision-making, self-awareness, and the capacity to choose healthier patterns and behaviors.
In today's episode, I'm joined by Dr. Morgan Anderson and we're talking all about building self-worth, self-esteem and self-confidence in the context of dating. Dr. Morgan is a licensed clinical psychologist, attachment theory expert, relationship coach, and author of the relationship self-help book, Love Magnet. She is also the host of the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast.
In our conversation, we cover:
how insecure attachment styles fuel unhealthy dating patterns
how low self-worth and a lack of self-trust impact our dating mindset
common shifts that occur as you rewire old patterns and move towards secure attachment
practical tools and tips for shifting your dating mindset and building a secure dating persona