It’s Possible to Have the Relationships You Deserve (with Dr. Nicole LePera)
May 23, 2024
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Dr. Nicole LePera, holistic psychologist and author, discusses embracing emotions, the mind-body connection, breaking familiar patterns, and fostering fulfilling relationships. They explore childhood influences on adult relationships, the impact of unmet emotional needs, and the importance of vulnerability in relationships. The conversation includes endorsements of vegan beauty products, sensual oils, and techniques for creating authentic connections through conscious awareness.
Embrace emotional validation for authentic connections in relationships.
Integrate feedback while maintaining self-awareness for personal growth.
Acknowledge childhood influences to understand and shift subconscious patterns.
Memory retrieval can be impacted by childhood trauma and stress responses.
Deep dives
Recognizing Emotions and Nervous System Awareness
Understanding the importance of integrating both mind and body, Dr. Nicole LaPara shares her evolution from a traditional cognitive-behavioral approach to a holistic one. By focusing on nervous system awareness and regulation, she witnessed clients shifting from feeling stuck to gaining insight and creating desired change.
Modeling Emotions in Relationships
Dr. Nicole LaPara delves into childhood experiences impacting adult relationships, emphasizing the role of emotional validation and presence in shaping connections. She highlights the significance of recognizing and expressing emotions authentically rather than adopting familiar patterns learned from childhood dynamics.
Separating Emotion and Feedback
Feedback and observations are seen as valuable by Dr. Nicole LaPara as they offer insights into individual behaviors and responses. She stresses the need to discern between external feedback and personal reality, advocating for a balanced approach in integrating feedback while maintaining inner self-awareness.
Revisiting Past Patterns and Self-Discovery
Reflecting on personal experiences, Dr. Nicole LaPara reveals a journey of uncovering subconscious patterns and self-perceptions. By acknowledging these past influences, she unravels the masked emotions and ingrained behaviors, paving the way for deeper self-understanding and growth.
Understanding the Impact of Childhood Trauma on Memory Retrieval
The podcast delves into the concept that the impact of childhood trauma can influence memory retrieval. Due to the effects of the stress hormone cortisol on brain development, particularly the hippocampus responsible for memory recall, individuals may experience difficulty in remembering specific events from their childhood. However, the emphasis is that memory is not solely about narrating the past events but also encompasses the behavioral and emotional responses that are indicative of past experiences.
Exploring Relationship Dynamics Rooted in Childhood Patterns
The discussion shifts towards relationship dynamics and how early childhood experiences shape individuals' ways of relating to others. It is highlighted that many relational patterns are influenced by past emotional and stress responses, impacting the quality of interactions and connections with others. By focusing on developing stress and emotional resilience, individuals can potentially break free from conditioned relationship patterns and foster more authentic and fulfilling connections.
Promoting Hope and Transformation Through Conscious Awareness
The podcast communicates a message of hope and potential transformation through conscious awareness and intentional actions. By being present and self-aware, individuals can initiate positive changes in their lives, specifically within their relationships and emotional responses. The underlying theme stresses the significance of understanding one's emotional reactions and behaviors as a catalyst for personal growth and creating healthier relationship dynamics.
This week, Erin and Sara sit down with Dr. Nicole LePera, a holistic psychologist and the author of "How To Be The Love You Seek.” They discuss the importance of feeling emotions, the mind body connection, why we're attracted to what's familiar, and more.
Executive Producers: Erin Foster, Sara Foster, and Allison Bresnick
