10% Happier with Dan Harris

How To Make a Marriage Work | Chodo Robert Campbell and Koshin Paley Ellison (Co-Interviewed by Dr. Bianca Harris)

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Feb 12, 2025
Chodo Robert Campbell, a Zen teacher and bereavement specialist, and Koshin Paley Ellison, a Zen teacher and Jungian psychotherapist, join Dr. Bianca Harris for an enlightening conversation. They explore how early childhood trauma impacts relationships and emphasize understanding your partner’s emotional needs. The trio humorously discuss the role of laughter in addressing tough topics, decision-making dynamics, and the importance of emotional vulnerability. Insights from their work in contemplative care provide depth to navigating love and personal growth.
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ANECDOTE

Unilateral Plan-Making

  • Koshin Paley Ellison finds Dan Harris's unilateral plan-making frustrating, similar to experiences with her partner.
  • She explains that surprises and changes can be triggering due to her childhood experiences, emphasizing the importance of agency and consultation.
ANECDOTE

Email Forwarding

  • Early in their marriage, Dan Harris would forward emails to Bianca Harris, saying she would handle it.
  • This initially felt like a dismissal of her time but later she understood it as an invitation to partnership.
ADVICE

Establish Rules

  • In relationships, establish clear rules and communicate explicitly.
  • Asking permission and confirming plans can prevent misunderstandings and maintain healthy boundaries.
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