The School of Greatness Stop Faking Confidence: Master These Cues Instead
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Dec 29, 2025 
Vanessa Van Edwards, a behavioral investigator and author of 'Captivate' and 'Cues,' dives into the science of charisma. She explains how true confidence comes from authentic body language and vocal tone rather than mere bravado. Listeners learn the importance of trust signals, how to navigate social rejection cues, and the impact of choice words in emails and presentations. Vanessa also highlights techniques for increasing warmth and competence, emphasizing that genuine communication fosters lasting connections.
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Smile With The Eyes
- Smile so your upper cheek muscles (eye crinkles) engage rather than focusing on teeth visibility.
- A genuine smile is contagious and makes people feel happier when they see it.
Label Rejection To Regain Control
- Spot and label social-rejection cues (eye rolls, sighs, distancing) to calm your amygdala and regain control.
- Labeling a cue reduces your physiological threat response so you can think clearly in meetings.
Respond To Scrutinizing Looks
- When you see someone harden their lower lids, pause and invite questions to honor their scrutiny.
- Use open palms and direct eye contact to signal receptivity and bring people back into the conversation.