Hidden Brain Why Trying Too Hard Can Backfire On You
Jun 3, 2024
In this conversation with philosopher Ted Slingerland, he explores the dangers of overthinking and the benefits of letting go. He discusses how excessive striving can backfire, offering insights into the balance between intuition and analysis. Ted humorously shares dating blunders, tying them to the importance of authenticity in connections. The discussion highlights the concept of 'wu-wei' or effortless action in achieving a state of flow, revealing how relaxing into experiences often leads to better outcomes in life, creativity, and relationships.
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Failed Romance Attempts
- Ted Slingerland actively tried to attract romantic interest, displaying books and his motorcycle helmet.
- These attempts felt contrived and were unsuccessful.
Effortless Success
- After a busy, flow-state shift at work, Slingerland relaxed and had effortless conversations.
- This led to a date and subsequent increased romantic interest from others.
Tennis and Trying Too Hard
- Slingerland struggled to relax while learning tennis, despite his coach's advice.
- Playing "danger tennis," hitting hard without caring about accuracy, improved his performance.