Front Row Seat with Ken Coleman How to Cure Shame and Unlock Your Potential
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Jun 10, 2025 Annalie Howling, an elite performance coach and trauma specialist, shares her insights on overcoming the paralysis of shame. She discusses how childhood experiences shape self-worth and emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and self-compassion in fostering deeper relationships. The conversation reveals how trauma can impact high performers, highlighting the need for open communication and support. Annalie also addresses the challenge of navigating toxic workplace dynamics and the isolation that leaders often face, underscoring the power of connection.
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Childhood Trauma Shapes Shame
- Annalie Howling shares a violent childhood memory where her father punched her at age seven.
- This early trauma shaped her initial shame rooted in feeling "I am bad."
Shame Manifests as 'I Am'
- Shame always expresses itself as an "I am" negative identity, like "I am bad."
- This identity colors self-perception and relationships deeply, driving feelings of unworthiness and rejection.
Cure Shame with Self-Compassion
- The cure for shame is self-compassion which replaces the negative "I am" with positive affirmations.
- Reframe beliefs from "I am weak" to "I am worthy" to heal shame at its root.
