Part 2 of 6: Brené with Ashley and Barrett for the Summer Sister Series on The Gifts of Imperfection
Jun 30, 2021
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Join Brené and her sister Ashley in exploring the importance of practicing authenticity, setting boundaries, and letting go of perfectionism. They discuss the struggles with boundary work, the connection between perfectionism and imperfections, and the significance of self-compassion in navigating life's challenges.
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Embracing authenticity involves letting go of societal expectations, embracing imperfections, and practicing compassion towards self and others.
Setting boundaries is crucial for self-care, defining self-respect, and preventing internal conflict and unworthiness.
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Authenticity and Self-Compassion
Choosing authenticity involves letting go of societal expectations and embracing genuine self-expression. It entails being imperfect, setting boundaries, allowing vulnerability, and practicing compassion towards oneself and others. Embracing authenticity fosters connection, belonging, and wholehearted living despite challenges like shame and fear.
Setting Boundaries and Resentment
Setting boundaries is crucial for authenticity and self-care, preventing resentment and promoting healthy relationships. Boundaries define what is acceptable or not and reflect self-respect. Fear of others' reactions may hinder setting boundaries, leading to internal conflict and feelings of unworthiness.
Perfectionism and Self-Compassion
Perfectionism, driven by fear of not being enough, often leads to judgment, criticism, and disconnection. The pursuit of perfection is unsustainable and links to process addiction. Embracing self-compassion, acknowledging shared humanity, and practicing mindfulness counteract perfectionism and foster self-kindness.
Embracing Imperfections and Connection
Leonard Cohen's lyrics 'There's a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in' serve as a reminder to embrace imperfections and vulnerabilities as sources of beauty and connection. Recognizing and accepting flaws, from messy houses to imperfect efforts, fosters solidarity and authenticity in relationships.
It’s Part 2 of our six-part Summer Sister Series on The Gifts of Imperfection, with my sisters, Ashley and Barrett. In this episode, we start with Guidepost #1 (Cultivating Authenticity and Letting Go of What People Think) and move into Guidepost #2 (Cultivating Self-Compassion and Letting Go of Perfectionism). Practicing authenticity — and, yes, it is a daily practice — is really connected to boundary work, so we admit the individual fears we each experience when setting boundaries. We also talk about perfectionism as a process addiction and how our imperfections are not inadequacies, but instead, they’re reminders that we’re all in this together.