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The Love Expert: Why Women Are Addicted To F**k Boys & Why You Should "Have A 'Boring' Relationship Instead!" Logan Ury

Oct 26, 2023
Logan Ury, a behavioral scientist and dating coach at Hinge, discusses the science behind romance and why many are drawn to 'f**k boys.' She emphasizes the importance of recognizing attachment styles and suggests that securely attached individuals might appear boring but are actually the heroes of the dating world. Logan dives into concepts like the negativity bias in dating and the 'secretary problem' for decision-making in relationships. She also explores the rise of sober dating among Gen Z and how vulnerability can deepen emotional connections.
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Quick takeaways

  • Recognize attachment styles and work towards developing more secure attachments.
  • Utilize the Secretary Problem approach to determine when to stop searching for the perfect partner.

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In this podcast episode, the speaker discusses the concept of the anxious avoidant loop in relationships. They explain how people with anxious attachment styles often seek reassurance and closeness, while those with avoidant attachment styles tend to fear intimacy and push people away. The speaker emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns and working towards more secure attachment styles. Strategies for anxious attached individuals include distracting oneself, texting someone else for support, and challenging negative thoughts and assumptions.

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