Guests Natalie Lue and Holly Whitaker discuss reframing people-pleasing behaviors, exploring the origins and impact of this behavior. They delve into the fawn response, societal pressure, and the negative effects of people-pleasing on well-being. The conversation emphasizes setting boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and the importance of personal responsibility in relationships.
Reframing people-pleasing involves self-awareness and setting boundaries to prioritize well-being over societal expectations.
Embracing disappointment and setting honest boundaries are crucial for building authentic relationships and fostering self-awareness.
Deep dives
Understanding People Pleasing Tendencies
People pleasing tendencies often stem from societal pressures and learned behaviors in response to anxiety and trauma. The podcast delves into the concept of people pleasing, where individuals prioritize others' needs above their own, often at the expense of their well-being. Exploring the roots of people pleasing behaviors and how they impact intimacy, the episode sheds light on the internal conflicts individuals face when balancing societal expectations of being 'good' with their own needs and desires.
Reframing People Pleasing Through Self-awareness
Reframing people pleasing involves cultivating self-awareness and recognizing the underlying motivations behind this behavior. By acknowledging the societal conditioning that fuels people pleasing tendencies, individuals can begin to untangle the complexities of always wanting to please others. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and simplicity in setting boundaries and learning to say no, ultimately fostering healthier relationships and empowering individuals to prioritize their well-being.
Embracing Disappointment and Honesty for Intimacy
Disappointment and honesty are essential elements in building intimacy and trust within relationships. The podcast highlights the significance of embracing disappointments and setting honest boundaries as critical steps towards authentic connections. By allowing room for open communication, navigating disappointments, and valuing self-respect over constant people-pleasing, individuals can foster genuine connections and self-awareness, leading to a more fulfilling and authentic life.
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This podcast is created, produced and hosted by Madeleine Dore
Are you looking for my previous podcast, Routines & Ruts? You can visit the full archive of episodes at extraordinaryroutines.com/podcast or find on Apple iTunes, Spotify,Pocket Casts or wherever you like to listen to your favourite podcasts by searching "Routines & Ruts"
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