Become a MAGNET to Love (Do THIS to Change EVERYTHING Before 2024!) | Dr. Nicole LePera

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Nov 15, 2023

Dr. Nicole LePera, a renowned author and creator of the #SelfHealers movement, shares her expertise on healing relationships by starting with self-love. She discusses how past traumas shape our relational dynamics and the crucial distinction between self-love and self-worth. Dr. LePera emphasizes breaking negative patterns and understanding emotional roles to foster healthier connections. Her insights stress the importance of personal exploration and emotional safety, paving the way for more meaningful relationships as 2024 approaches.

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INSIGHT

Self-Love vs. Selfishness

Self-love is prioritizing self-care, not selfishness.
It allows authentic expression and reduces resentment in relationships.

ADVICE

Prioritizing Self-Care

Prioritize self-care to avoid resentment.
Embrace activities that bring personal joy, even if it feels unfamiliar.

ANECDOTE

Modeling Learned Behavior

Dr. LePera's mother's emotional disconnection influenced her behavior.
She prioritized achievements to gain attention, neglecting her own needs.

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Lewis welcomes Dr. Nicole LePera, renowned author of the #1 New York Times bestsellers "How To Do The Work" and “How to Meet Your Self” Workbook. Dr. LePera, the creator of the #SelfHealers movement, discusses her latest book, "How to Be the Love You Seek," offering invaluable insights into healing relationships starting with oneself. She highlights the significance of understanding past traumas and how they shape current relationship dynamics, emphasizing the importance of self-love, emotional resilience, and cultivating healthy connections.

Relationships have always been essential to human survival. Our bodies and brains are programmed to seek out connection, whether familial, romantic, or platonic. And yet, these vital bonds are often at the root of our deepest suffering. While our hearts are primed for compassionate connection, our nervous systems—which store all our past hurts and disappointments—are wired for threat and negativity.

For decades, leading relationship advice has maintained that successful relationships require a specific compromise—that we must change our authentic expression to better meet the needs of others, and vice versa. It may sound reasonable in theory, but as Dr. LePera explains, this approach is nothing less than a recipe for a lifetime of resentment.

Buy her new book How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships

In this episode you will learn

The difference between self-love and self-worth, and how to focus attention effectively on both.
Strategies to practice self-love while maintaining healthy relationships.
Common patterns and beliefs that hinder the ability to receive love and ways to shift these mindsets.
The role of self-compassion in emotional healing and reprogramming the brain.
Techniques for setting healthy boundaries and overcoming self-sabotaging behaviors in relationships.

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