Magical Overthinkers Overthinking About Horniness
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Jan 7, 2026 
This week, Shan Boodram, an ASEC-certified sex educator and media presence, dives deep into the complexities of horniness. She explores how cultural factors and social media shape our desires and the feelings of shame that often accompany them. Discussion highlights include the impact of isolation on intimacy, the biological drivers of libido, and the ways different types of sex drives manifest. Shan also provides practical tips for aligning with one’s natural desires and navigating mismatched libidos in relationships.
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Modern Life Distorts Natural Desire
- Horniness often clashes with our modern digital lives and Puritanical legacy, making desire confusing and shameful for many.
- Amanda Montell frames this as a Stone Age body meeting an information-age mind, intensifying overthinking about sex.
Why Shan Entered Sex Education
- Shan Boodram began sex education because there were no visible, relatable experts like her when she started.
- She takes pride in the younger generation of diverse intimacy educators now present on platforms.
Biology Still Governs Desire
- Physical safety, nutrition, and stress strongly gate sexual desire via our evolutionary wiring.
- For people with cycles, ovulation often raises desire around days 12–14, but hormonal contraception can mask these signals.
