Former FBI Crisis Negotiation Unit member and international hostage and kidnapping negotiator, Chris Voss, discusses his work in the FBI and how his negotiation methods can be applied to everyday situations. Topics include differences between negotiating in international hostage situations and bank robberies, the power of empathy in human interaction, negotiating strategies of Trump, Putin, and Kim Jong-un, and the impact of language in negotiations.
Demonstrating tactical empathy in negotiations can lead to more positive outcomes by making others feel heard and understood.
Negotiating with strong personalities like Donald Trump or Vladimir Putin requires understanding their communication style and adapting the approach accordingly.
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The Power of Tactical Empathy in Negotiations
Tactical empathy, according to former FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss, is a game changer in negotiations. By demonstrating understanding and making others feel heard, people are more likely to open up and be willing to cooperate. Voss explains that empathy does not mean agreement or sympathy, but rather a deep understanding of someone's perspective. He emphasizes the importance of active listening and avoiding talking too much, as talking actually diminishes the chances of reaching a successful negotiation. Voss also discusses the significance of body language and how it can either foster or hinder productive communication. Overall, using tactical empathy can lead to more positive and fruitful negotiations in various scenarios, from business deals to personal relationships.
Negotiating Strategies for Dealing with Strong Personalities
Chris Voss sheds light on negotiating with strong personalities like Donald Trump, Vladimir Putin, and Kim Jong-un. He explains that aggressive negotiators, like Donald Trump, often create an intimidating atmosphere and may burn bridges in the long run. Voss advises using deference and overwhelming them with details to counteract their aggressive tendencies. On the other hand, analytical negotiators like Putin require careful calculations and not getting provoked. By understanding their communication styles and adapting the negotiation approach accordingly, it is possible to navigate complex negotiations with strong personalities and achieve successful outcomes.
Discovering the Secrets to Longevity
Chris Voss discusses the concept of living a long and fulfilling life and shares insights from studying the 'Blue Zones' where people live the longest. He highlights the importance of community and human connections, explaining that loneliness can affect longevity negatively. Voss references the impact of socializing, respect for the elderly, and having a support system as key factors in these communities. Additionally, he mentions the significance of a healthy lifestyle, like regular exercise and a predominantly plant-based diet, which the people in the 'Blue Zones' adhere to. By understanding the commonalities in these communities, people can potentially enhance their own longevity and overall well-being.
Chris Voss spent 24 years working in the FBI Crisis Negotiation Unit and was the FBI's chief international hostage and kidnapping negotiator from 2003 to 2007. He is the author of the best selling book, Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It. Chris and Lance discuss his work in the FBI and how you can apply his methods to every day situations.
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