Episode 277: Why Emotions Aren't Feminine (and Why Women Aren't More Emotional!)
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Apr 3, 2025
The podcast dives into the misconception that men are logical while women are emotional, revealing a more nuanced truth about emotional maturity. The hosts discuss the critical role of emotional intimacy and balance in relationships, challenging outdated stereotypes. They emphasize the importance of vulnerability and communication, advocating for shared emotional responsibilities. Historical insights on women's roles in the church and the need for egalitarian partnerships are also explored, promoting mutual respect and deeper connections in marriages.
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Emotional Connection
Many marriages get stuck sharing facts and opinions, missing deeper emotional connection.
Connecting emotionally means understanding each other's past, narratives, and present reality.
insights INSIGHT
Leading Emotions
Josh Howerton suggests men should "lead" their wives' emotions, implying they should control them.
This dismisses women's valid concerns and discourages emotional connection during conflict.
question_answer ANECDOTE
Warrior Mode
Emerson Eggerichs claims men's heart rates increase during conflict, needing to withdraw.
He labels this as "warrior mode," framing it as normal and honorable, not emotional.
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The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
Emerson Eggerichs
In 'Love & Respect,' Dr. Emerson Eggerichs argues that the primary emotional needs for men and women are different: men need respect, while women need love. The book introduces the concepts of the 'Crazy Cycle' and the 'Energizing Cycle' to explain how negative and positive communication patterns can impact a marriage. Eggerichs provides practical tips and exercises to help couples break down communication barriers, handle conflict, and foster a deeper love and respect for each other. The book is based on over three decades of counseling and research, and it aims to help couples achieve a more fulfilling and biblically grounded relationship.
Anne of Green Gables
Lucy Maud Montgomery
Published in 1908, the novel tells the story of Anne Shirley, an 11-year-old orphan girl who is sent by mistake to live with Matthew and Marilla Cuthbert, who had intended to adopt a boy to help them on their farm in Avonlea. Despite initial reservations, Anne's vivid imagination, talkativeness, and joyful spirit transform the lives of the Cuthberts and the community. The novel follows Anne's adventures in school, her friendships, and her rivalry with Gilbert Blythe, as well as her growth and adaptation to her new home. Montgomery infused the work with her own girlhood experiences and the rural life and traditions of Prince Edward Island[2][5][4].
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert
John Gottman
Nan Silver
This book, written by John Gottman and Nan Silver, is based on Gottman's extensive research on couples and their relationships. It outlines seven principles that couples can follow to nurture their friendship, resolve conflicts effectively, and create a shared sense of meaning. The principles include enhancing 'love maps,' nurturing fondness and admiration, turning toward each other, letting each other influence, solving solvable problems, overcoming gridlock, and creating shared meaning. The book also warns against the 'Four Horsemen' of criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling, which can predict the demise of a marriage. Packed with exercises, questionnaires, and real-life examples, this guide helps couples improve their communication, intimacy, and overall relationship quality.
So many evangelical pastors teach that men are rational while women are emotional. But is this true? And if women are more emotionally mature than men, then doesn't that mean that men need to learn from women? Listen in as Keith and Sheila dissect several clips from Josh Howerton, Emerson Eggerichs, Josh McPherson, and Matt Walsh.
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