

Why Love Feels Addictive: Enneagram Insights with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Oct 2, 2025
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author of "Exaholics," and founder of Growing Self Counseling. In this engaging discussion, she unpacks why love can feel addictive, linking it to our biological wiring for attachment. Lisa explores how different Enneagram types interact in relationships, exposing myths of compatibility and power dynamics. She offers insights on spotting blind spots in partnerships and shares practical exercises for understanding and improving relational patterns. A hopeful conversation about love, healing, and growth!
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From Type Three To Seven With An Eight Wing
- Lisa Marie Bobby described years of identifying as a Three before discovering she's a Seven wing Eight.
- That new typing freed parts of her personality that had been in exile and explained mismatches with Three.
Generational Trauma Felt Like Constant Chase
- Lisa links her restless, 'chased by wolves' energy to family history as a first-generation American.
- She later recognized that this driving energy also reflects core Seven motivations.
Love Is Biologically Addictive
- Love and attachment are biologically addictive processes hardwired to promote bonding.
- Attachment becomes problematic when it bonds you to an unsuitable person, creating what looks like addiction.