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Episode 521: Dr. Shadé Zahrai, PhD: The Science of Acting Through Self-Doubt

Jan 20, 2026
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Dr Shadé Zahrai
Dr. Shadé Zahrai, a behavioral researcher and peak performance educator, discusses the dynamics of self-doubt, focusing on how it's rooted in self-trust rather than confidence. She shares insights on why even high achievers face self-doubt and the ping pong vs. golf ball analogy for detaching from it. Dr. Zahrai reveals that self-image drives behavior and emphasizes the importance of acceptance and habitual practices in overcoming doubt. She also highlights the impact of partner traits on long-term success and offers practical tools to reframe anxiety into excitement.
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INSIGHT

Trust Comes Before Confidence

  • Self-doubt's opposite is self-trust, not confidence.
  • Confidence emerges after action, so trust yourself to start before feeling ready.
ADVICE

Get A Hobby To Boost Worth

  • If you lack acceptance, develop hobbies to build identity beyond work.
  • Use hobbies as low-stakes outlets that boost self-worth and reduce performance-linked validation.
INSIGHT

Ping-Pong Ball vs Golf Ball Doubt

  • High performers experience doubt but treat it like a ping pong ball they don't internalize.
  • Internalized doubt is a golf ball that sinks identity and drains confidence over time.
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