Spirit Gym with Paul Chek
EP 272 — Dr. Marc Gafni — Exploring the Self
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Quick takeaways
- Self-care is crucial for individual growth and existence.
- Recognizing the interconnectedness of the self and a larger field of consciousness.
- Embracing and expressing one's unique self contributes to global coherence and communion.
- Wholeness is an expanding and regenerative force.
- Technology should be used as a tool for genuine connection, embracing an enriched understanding of self.
- Embracing and realizing the unique self can reshape our world and respond to the meta-crisis humanity faces.
Deep dives
Level 1: Separate Self
At the first level, the speaker describes the separate self as an individual with their own needs and desires. They emphasize the importance of taking care of oneself physically, mentally, and emotionally, such as focusing on happiness, diet, rest, and movement. This level of self is real and exists in the mind of God, as it is necessary for individual existence and growth.
Level 2: True Self
The next level is the true self, where the speaker expands on the idea that the self is not just a separate individual, but it is also connected to a larger field of consciousness and existence. They claim that one's identity is a part of this field and is dependent on it. This higher level of self realization involves recognizing one's deeper connection to the larger field of consciousness and physical reality, understanding that the self is made up of everything that supports its existence and being.
Level 3: Unique Self
The unique self is described as the ultimate level of self. It is the recognition that each individual is an irreducibly unique expression of the divine and is necessary to complete the 'puzzle' of existence. The uniqueness of each individual is seen as a valuable and essential contribution to the larger whole. The speaker suggests that global coherence and communion can only be achieved when people embrace and express their unique selves, working together in a symphony of uniqueness and love.
Wholeness is anabolic
The speaker emphasizes that wholeness is not a static state, but rather an expanding and regenerative force. They explain that as individuals reach a place of maximum wholeness, their experience is not one of completion but of the generative power of wholeness itself. The concept of God is addressed as the ultimate expression of wholeness, constantly seeking to experience and expand itself through the unique perspectives and expressions of individuals.
The Importance of Self-Connection in Parenting
Edward Edinger, a psychiatrist and Jungian analyst, emphasizes the importance of not damaging the self-connection in parenting. When a child is abused or ostracized by their parent, they are unable to gain the support they need to make their personal journey, leading to wounds that can isolate them. This concept extends beyond parenting and applies to how governments interact with their people, as cutting off the connection to self can result in a disconnection from trust, increased anxiety, depression, and other coping mechanisms like drug addiction and alcohol consumption.
The Power Dynamics of Control and Propaganda
The podcast episode discusses how there was a move to take advantage of the health crisis during COVID, leading to more rigorous structures and patterns of control. While some people believe this was driven by a few demonic individuals, the conversation suggests that it is more insidious. Data scientists and groups of people in positions of power have a belief that absolute control is necessary to prevent existential risk. However, without a foundation of shared values and the recognition of individual dignity, these control structures can become totalitarian and invisible instruments of power.
The Flawed Conception of Self and the Web
The conversation delves into the consequences of having a flawed conception of self in relation to technology, particularly the web. The web, as it is currently coded, is based on an impoverished notion of self, reducing individuals to purely materialistic beings devoid of inherent goodness and value. This flawed conception is reflected in the design of the web, promoting manipulability and reducing individuals to social selves that can be easily influenced by social cues. However, the potential for deep digital intimacy and connection exists if individuals embrace an enriched understanding of self and utilize the web as a tool for genuine connection.
The Emergence of Self and the Evolutionary Unique Self
The podcast explores the concept of the evolutionary unique self as the culmination of the self's journey. The evolutionary unique self goes beyond being a mere puzzle piece that completes the puzzle, but one that actively evolves the puzzle itself. This unique self is the embodiment of one's aliveness and capacity for deep contact and connection, birthing new goodness and truth. Recognizing the unique self as an archetype helps to understand its role in organizing perceptions, regulating and motivating conscious contents, and leading the channeling and conversion of instinctual energy. Embracing and realizing the unique self holds the power to reshape our world and respond to the meta-crisis humanity faces.
The Essence of Self and the Urge to Wholeness
The podcast explores the concept of self and the innate desire for wholeness. It delves into the idea that self is not just a collection of facts but a spiritual essence that longs to be shared and loved. The episode emphasizes the importance of recognizing and honoring the uniqueness of the self, as well as the significance of embracing uncertainty and mystery in the journey of self-discovery. The discussion highlights the interplay between certainty and uncertainty, and the potential pitfalls of dogma and overreaching uncertainty. Overall, it emphasizes the need to dance with both certainty and uncertainty to fully realize the essence of self.
The Dance Between Interior and Exterior
The podcast explores the interconnectedness of the spiritual self and the physical body. It emphasizes that the brain and nervous system, as the mirror, may be distorted due to traumas or conditions like schizophrenia, but the core self remains unchanged. The analogy of a distorted mirror being the physical self and the light being the spiritual self is used to highlight that the self, although influenced by external factors, persists and embraces the experiences of life. It also addresses the role of shame in blocking access to the core certainty of one's goodness.
The Magical Box of Self
The podcast presents a West African story about a young man who falls in love with a goddess. She agrees to marry him but gives him a box with a condition not to open it. Curiosity tempts him to open the box, only to find it empty. When confronted, the goddess explains that the most precious, beautiful, and valuable things to her were in the box, and his inability to perceive their worth leads to her departure. This story highlights the importance of recognizing and honoring the inherent value and beauty within oneself and others, as well as the transformative power of witnessing and sharing that value.
The state of our world is in such a fragile place right now, which means it’s up to all of us to step up to the plate and do our part to make it better. You can’t be that agent of change, however, if you don’t know your self…
Explore the concept of self and be prepared to tackle the three most important questions any human being has to answer as Dr. Marc Gafni returns for another deep dive into cosmo-erotic humanism in this Living 4D conversation.
Learn more about Marc’s work on his website where you can register for his free, weekly Evolutionary Sensemaking program Sundays at 10 a.m. Western Time/1 p.m. Eastern Time and receive Chapters 1-4 of his book, Your Unique Self: The Radical Path to Personal Enlightenment, for free. Take Marc’s Unique Self mini-course that’s also free.
Check out Marc on many social media platforms, including Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and YouTube.
Timestamps
- The most important questions a human being has to answer. (4:14)
- “If we don’t get this right, we’re going to go extinct.” (10:15)
- The second simplicity. (18:41)
- The separate self is a puzzle piece. (32:18)
- Your unique self. (40:23)
- Uniqueness: The currency of connection. (52:57)
- “God is an ultimate wholeness…” (59:09)
- Evolutionary unique self. (1:11:33)
- “My unique self is my unique eros.” (1:33:11)
- The self as an archetype. (1:53:26)
- Your storyline. (2:10:44)
- One of the mysteries of reality. (2:20:37)
- Certainty and uncertainty: Values of the cosmos. (2:27:59)
- The other door in the self. (2:35:28)
Resources
- Self in Integral Evolutionary Mysticism by Dr. Marc Gafni
- The Name of the Rose by Umberto Eco
- Paul’s Living 4D conversation with Nir Eyal
- Soul Prints: Your Path to Fulfillment by Dr. Marc Gafni
- The Erotic and The Holy by Dr. Marc Gafni
- Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products by Nir Eyal
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