Actualized.org - Self-Help, Psychology, Consciousness, Spirituality, Philosophy How To Stop Caring What People Think Of You
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Aug 11, 2014 AI Snips
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Childhood Culture Shock Shaped People-Pleasing
- Leo describes moving from Russia to the U.S. at six and struggling to fit in because of language and culture barriers.
- He links those early experiences to lifelong people-pleasing and sensitivity to others' opinions.
Reacting To A Parent's Indifference
- Leo contrasts his father's blatant indifference to others' opinions with his own early reaction to reject that behavior.
- That rejection morphed into an overcorrection: becoming extra-nice and people-pleasing to avoid being 'an asshole.'
People-Pleasing Is Image Preservation
- Leo explains people-pleasing as an attempt to validate an ideal self-image of being noble and caring.
- He argues the behavior seeks external confirmation and avoids disconfirming evidence at great personal cost.