Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry In Session: I Want My 13-Year-Old Out of My Bed!
Sep 5, 2025
A mother grapples with her 13-year-old daughter's dependence on co-sleeping, fueled by ADHD and anxiety. They explore navigating bedtime dynamics, the impact of social anxiety, and effective strategies to foster independence. The discussion emphasizes the importance of therapy, breathing exercises, and the balance between support and boundaries. It also touches on the complexities of managing sleep, screen time, and teaching valuable life skills like financial management. Empowering teens to confront their fears while promoting autonomy takes center stage.
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Co-Sleeping Started As Bonding
- Mary describes years of co-sleeping that began as bonding time and became chronic.
- The habit now displaces the father and prevents developing independent sleep skills.
Tolerate Pushback To Teach Skills
- Parents must learn to tolerate their child's distress and pushback without backing down.
- Practice waking the child and moving her or enforcing bed rules even when uncomfortable.
Therapy Needs Parental Follow-Through
- Therapy that only lets the child talk without parental coaching often fails to change family patterns.
- Parents must practice new responses between sessions for meaningful improvement.
