Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

Today's episode is a recast of Part 2 of our 2022 series entitled: 7 Essential Anxiety Disruptors For Families. [Listen to last week's episode for a recast of Part 1 and continue with Part 3 here: The 7 Anxiety Disruptors For Families: #3 get uncomfortable on purpose] Externalizing worry (and other strong emotions) teaches children and parents to take a step back and notice HOW worry and other big feelings operate. Changing the response to worry (instead of changing the environment to meet anxiety’s demands) is a powerful skill. Consistency and practice are key, and Lynn talks about how to explain and use externalizing in your family to promote emotional intelligence and management. These skills are relevant for kids and adults. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whether you’re a loyal listener or new to the podcast, you’ll want to join us for this series on Lynn Lyons’ approach to anxiety. Lynn and Robin talk about the first "puzzle piece" that helps create an anxiety-disrupting strategy for parents and kids. Together, these puzzle pieces are a foundation for a family to shift their anxious patterns. Lynn will explain the steps in order, just as she does in her practice, so that families have the clarity, language and confidence to manage worry. This week we start with “Expect to Worry.” WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this discussion, the hosts explore how parents can unintentionally enhance their children's anxiety by 'doing the disorder.' Lynn highlights the dangers of over-planning routines, excessive reassurance, and distraction tactics that keep kids from tackling their worries. She warns against medicalizing physical symptoms and emphasizes the importance of consistent, action-oriented therapy. The conversation concludes with practical steps to help kids engage in real-world activities, fostering resilience against worry and depression.

Lynn is joined by psychologist Dr. Ali Navidi who specializes in the brain gut connection. So many anxious kids have tummy aches and gastrointestinal symptoms. And sometimes an episode of food poisoning or the norovirus can set off an anxious spiral that turns chronic. Lynn and Ali talk about how to interrupt these patterns, their mutual love of pediatric hypnosis, and the myth that progress needs to be made slowly. Visit Ali's website: gipsychology.com WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Just in time for the holidays, we welcome psychologist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish to talk about her new book: You, Your Husband, and His Mother: Create a Healthy Relationship with Your Mother-in-Law--and Your Spouse--in Five Simple Steps. Tracy gives us the keys to handling this tricky dynamic with the goal of connection. And Lynn (whose mother-in-law does not listen to the podcast) has fun role playing. And check out Tracy's podcast: Dear Dr. Tracy WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Human beings are judgy creatures. It’s part of being social animals. But want to guarantee conflict during the holidays? Start judging other family member’s parenting. Too much sugar for your cousin’s toddler? The horror! Not enough emotional expression allowed by your brother-in-law? Disappointing! Whether you are the judge or the judged (and we’re often both), shifting your approach during holiday gatherings will benefit everyone. Let’s talk strategy, reality, and talking at least 85% less. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freeflusterclux! Head to lumen.me/FLUSTER for 15% off your purchase. Get 15% off Oak Essentials with the code [FLUSTERCLUX15] at oakessentials.com/FLUSTERCLUX15. Just for listeners of FlusterClux, get 20% off sitewide and a FREE travel case and countertop stand at GETQUIP.COM/FLUSTER. As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Search “Last Night at School Committee” wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereWIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Lynn and Ed as they bond over fainting stories, setting a humorous tone. They dive into the complexities of distraction, distinguishing between helpful and harmful strategies. Lynn discusses 'destructive distraction' and its risks, while offering 'unhooking' techniques like the alphabet game to combat rumination. They explore fun, engaging activities for kids to shift focus away from anxiety and emphasize the importance of modeling healthy responses as parents. A thought-provoking conversation that highlights moving from distraction to meaningful action!

In this conversation, the hosts highlight the importance of unstructured hanging out for teens' social development. They discuss how the pandemic shifted interactions to virtual format, limiting essential in-person social skills. The benefits of messy experiences are emphasized, as they teach vital life lessons like conflict resolution. Scheduled activities are seen as a barrier to free play, which is crucial for fostering social competence. Lastly, the impact of screen time on connection and the challenges teens face with driving are explored, offering parents practical support tips.

Discover the differences between introverted, shy, and socially anxious kids. Learn how solitude can be healthy but recognize when it crosses into anxiety. Valuable insights highlight the importance of inner dialogue and how context matters in social fears. Practical strategies, like fostering autonomy and encouraging real-life tasks, help build confidence. The episode underscores the significance of normalization and ongoing practice for parents and kids alike to navigate their social landscapes.

Explore the fascinating world of parenting styles, from gentle to snowplow. Discover how flexibility plays a key role in effective parenting. Learn about the pitfalls of eggshell and concierge parenting, and the impact of helicopter oversight. Contrast free-range independence with the concept of unparenting. The hosts highlight the balance of playful and sturdy parenting while introducing FAFO parenting, which encourages kids to learn from their mistakes. Practical tips on blending approaches emphasize the importance of autonomy.