Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson Ep. 30: 7 Ways Past Anger
Aug 6, 2018
Explore the hidden costs of anger on well-being and relationships. Learn strategies to avoid acting out from anger and how to reduce daily triggers. Discover the importance of reacting proportionally to offenses and distinguishing irritation from chronic irritability. Uncover habits of fault-finding and the wisdom in the story of the two monks. Understand 'near enemies' that mislead our discernment and the benefits of slowing down to prevent impulsive reactions. Finally, address how to disengage from moral outrage and righteous superiority.
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Anger Harms The Angrier Person
- Anger is seductive because it propels action while also harming the person feeling it.
- Recognizing the personal costs of anger motivates you to manage it for your own wellbeing.
A Personal Precept To Pause
- Rick adopted a personal precept to never speak or act from anger, then noticed many small leaks.
- That discipline led him to slow down and express underlying hurt or fear more authentically.
Name Anger Then Don't Act On It
- Name your anger but avoid acting from it; slow down to speak from the heart instead.
- Reserve the right to be firm while preventing runaway cycles of mutual escalation.
