The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos

When Guilt is Good... and When it's Not

Feb 7, 2022

Valorie Burton, a life coach and author of "Let Go of the Guilt," shares her profound insights on guilt. She discusses how guilt can be both a motivator for positive change and a crippling burden fueled by unrealistic expectations. Valorie examines the impact of guilt on mothers balancing careers and family life, introducing the 'peel method' for reframing emotions and managing guilt effectively. This enlightening conversation encourages listeners to differentiate between authentic and false guilt, and to embrace self-compassion.

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Intro

3min

Navigating the Complexity of Guilt

9min

Understanding Guilt: Between Burden and Benefit

6min

Unpacking Guilt: Motherhood and Professionalism

10min

Navigating Guilt: Understanding Its Roots and Releasing Its Hold

5min

Understanding and Reframing Guilt

7min

Understanding and Overcoming False Guilt

4min

If you've done something wrong, feelings of guilt can prompt us to apologise, make amends and change our ways. But many of us also feel guilty with little cause. We may think we're bad parents, lazy or incompetent workers, or unreliable partners - all without much evidence that we've done anything wrong.

Life coach Valorie Burton (author of Let Go Of The Guilt: Stop Beating Yourself Up And Take Back Your Joy) felt guilty for combining her career with raising a family - until she started examining the values and assumptions that underpinned these draining feelings. She shares the strategies she developed to separate 'true' guilt from 'false' guilt with Dr Laurie Santos.

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