Rethinking Conflict in Relationships

Contrary to common belief, fighting in relationships is not inherently harmful and may even strengthen a partnership. Researchers Julie and John Gottman have studied couples for over five decades, finding that the quality of disagreements is more significant than the disagreements themselves. Their research indicates that nearly all couples experience conflict, but those who manage to navigate their disagreements constructively enrich their emotional connection. In fact, appropriate fighting can lead to improved intimacy and understanding, reshaping the common narrative that conflict is detrimental.