ReThinking The science of healthy relationships with John and Julie Gottman
48 snips
Dec 13, 2022 
John and Julie Gottman, renowned psychologists and co-founders of the Gottman Institute, dive into the science of healthy relationships. They share transformative insights from their decades of research, focusing on conflict resolution and communication dynamics. The Gottmans touch on the effects of the pandemic on couples, the importance of positive emotions, and the role of humor in addressing common conflicts like cleanliness. Their latest book provides practical tools to enhance emotional safety and strengthen the love that lasts.
AI Snips
Chapters
Books
Transcript
Episode notes
Origins of Relationship Research
- John Gottman began studying relationships because his own were failing.
- Julie Gottman was drawn into relationship research through John's work, transitioning from her focus on trauma patients.
Predicting Divorce
- The Gottmans' research predicts divorce with high accuracy by analyzing short interactions.
- This involves coding emotional cues and physiological data like heart rate and sweat.
Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
- The "Four Horsemen"—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—predict relationship failure.
- Contempt is the most destructive, impacting the listener's immune system.
