Learn how to recognize the symptoms of trauma and discover if you have experienced it. Explore the subjective experience of trauma and the impact it can have at home. Understand the complex relationship trauma survivors have with kindness and the difficulty they face in being kind to themselves.
Trauma is determined by the subjective experience of powerlessness and betrayal, rather than the event itself.
Developmental trauma in the family of origin can lead to difficulties with affect regulation and relationships.
Deep dives
What is trauma?
Trauma refers to a feeling of helplessness combined with abandonment by potential caregivers. It is not determined by the event itself, but by the subjective experience of powerlessness and betrayal. Trauma changes the physical structures of the mind and body, and the severity of trauma lies in how the brain and body subjectively experience the event.
The impact of developmental trauma
Developmental trauma refers to powerlessness and abandonment in the family of origin, resulting in an insecure attachment. It affects affect regulation and relationships. People with developmental trauma may struggle with dysregulation, experiencing disproportionate emotions such as anger, fear, shame, and sadness. They may also have difficulties with relationships, either experiencing frequent broken relationships or avoiding conflict due to a lack of freedom to express thoughts and feelings.
Symptoms of trauma
Symptoms of trauma include problems with affect regulation, difficulty with interpersonal relationships, and challenges receiving kindness. Trauma often leads to dysregulation, making it challenging to navigate emotions and maintain healthy relationships. Additionally, trauma can create ambivalence towards kindness, causing suspicion or discomfort. People with trauma may struggle to receive compliments and can have a war with being kind to themselves.
Many people are unaware that they have a history of trauma. Trauma has a tendency to hide. But the symptoms don’t lie. If you have the symptoms of trauma, it is highly likely that you have a history of trauma—whether you can locate that trauma in your story or not. Today we will look at the symptoms of trauma, as well as address the questions, “What exactly is trauma? What makes something traumatic?”