How To Decrease “Fragility” with Positive Psychiatrist Dr. Samantha Boardman
Aug 23, 2024
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Dr. Samantha Boardman, a positive psychiatrist and author, dives into the challenges of parenting with a focus on emotional management. She discusses the pitfalls of fixating too much on feelings and advocates for fostering resilience by empowering children to tackle their own challenges. The conversation highlights the importance of a growth mindset, positive communication, and reframing challenges as opportunities for learning, emphasizing that failure can be a stepping stone to success.
Parents should encourage resilience in children by fostering an environment that embraces challenges rather than viewing them as fragile beings.
Positive psychiatry promotes a focus on strengths, encouraging activities that enhance connection and engagement rather than fixating solely on feelings.
Teaching children to process overwhelming emotions and reflect on past successes builds their confidence, resilience, and decision-making skills.
Deep dives
Embracing Uncertainty in Parenting
At the start of the school year, it’s essential for parents to remember that children are capable of handling challenges and uncertainties. Instead of viewing kids as fragile, parents should foster an environment that emphasizes resilience and strength. With many families facing a school year filled with unknowns, encouraging a positive mindset can help alleviate worries. Acknowledging that kids, like adults, experience fears can lead to constructive conversations that build their confidence to navigate life’s challenges.
Positive Psychiatry and Mental Well-Being
Positive psychiatry emphasizes focusing on strengths rather than solely diagnosing mental illness. This approach encourages the promotion of well-being through activities that foster connection and engagement. Instead of fixating on emotions, finding a balance between expressing feelings and engaging in positive actions is crucial. By modeling this behavior, parents help their children learn to manage their emotional responses and develop healthier coping strategies.
The Dangers of Emotional Over-Engagement
Constantly discussing emotions can lead to rumination, which may negatively impact mental health, particularly in children. Taking a step back to process emotions rather than reacting immediately can help individuals gain perspective. The example of Abraham Lincoln suggests that writing down feelings can be an effective method for processing emotions. Teaching children to distance themselves from overwhelming feelings can promote resilience and empower them to tackle challenges more effectively.
The Importance of Agency in Mental Health
Agency and autonomy are crucial components of mental health, enabling individuals to feel in control of their decisions. Engaging children in discussions about how to handle challenges helps build their confidence and decision-making skills. Encouraging kids to reflect on past successes when facing new difficulties empowers them and reinforces their ability to cope. This approach shifts the focus from merely addressing anxiety to celebrating achievements and developing resilience.
Reframing Perspectives on Resilience
Resilience is an inherent human trait, and experiences of adversity can serve as opportunities for growth rather than detrimental events. Teaching children to view life's challenges through a narrative of personal growth cultivates a positive mindset. Highlighting the potential for change in oneself and others reinforces that difficulties are temporary and surmountable. This perspective fosters an environment where children can build confidence and embrace their evolving identities.
In today’s episode we are joined by positive psychiatrist and author Dr. Samantha Boardman to dive into the complexities of managing emotions in parenting. We talk about the potential pitfalls of over-focusing on feelings, the importance of fostering resilience, and how to balance sensitivity with empowering kids to navigate their challenges. We also discuss the power of positivity and focusing on one’s strengths vs. their shortcomings.
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