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#415: Lori Gottlieb — The Power of Getting to Unknow Yourself

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Mar 19, 2020

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Lori Gottlieb

Lori Gottlieb, a renowned psychotherapist and bestselling author, shares her insights on identity and emotional health. She discusses the complexities of parenthood as a single individual and the importance of storytelling in connecting with others. The conversation delves into the significance of recognizing emotional pain and its equivalence to physical suffering. Gottlieb emphasizes the qualities that differentiate good therapists from great ones, highlighting authenticity and compassion in therapeutic relationships. She also reflects on how life's transitions shape our well-being.

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ANECDOTE

Sperm Donor Story

Lori Gottlieb shared a story at The Moth about choosing a sperm donor.
This personal anecdote explored the complexities of single parenthood.

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INSIGHT

Hierarchy of Pain

There's no hierarchy of pain; all suffering deserves attention.
Ignoring emotional pain can lead to crises, making treatment harder.

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ADVICE

Wise Compassion

Deliver truth bombs with wise compassion, not idiot compassion.
Ask questions to guide self-reflection, focusing on behaviors.

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Navigating Parenthood and Identity

09:06 • 4min

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Understanding the Hierarchy of Pain

13:21 • 20min

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The Journey to Greatness in Therapy

32:53 • 27min

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Navigating Life's Transitions: A Journey of Purpose

01:00:12 • 25min

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The Power of Gifting Literature

01:25:22 • 8min

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Reflecting on Meaningful Conversations and Insights

01:33:38 • 4min

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The Tennis Partner

A Doctor's Story of Friendship and Loss

Abraham Verghese

In 'The Tennis Partner', Abraham Verghese recounts his friendship with David Smith, a medical student recovering from drug addiction. Their bond, forged through tennis, becomes a source of strength and support as they face personal demons. The book explores themes of loyalty, loss, and the healing power of human connection. It delves into the complexities of addiction and the limits of friendship in the face of adversity.

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

Lori Gottlieb

In 'Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,' Lori Gottlieb presents a dual narrative where she recounts her experiences as a psychotherapist working with various patients and as a patient herself, seeking therapy after a sudden and devastating breakup. The book introduces several patients, including a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with terminal cancer, a senior citizen contemplating ending her life, and a young woman struggling with alcoholism and poor relationship choices. Through these stories, Gottlieb sheds light on the therapeutic process, highlighting the complexities of human emotions, the importance of connection, and the universal quest for meaning and inner reconciliation. The book is known for its candid and humorous approach, offering insights into the human condition and the transformative power of therapy.

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Lori Gottlieb (@LoriGottlieb1) is a psychotherapist and author of the New York Times bestseller Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which is being adapted as a television series by Eva Longoria and the creators of the Emmy and Golden Globe-winning series The Americans. In addition to her clinical practice, she writes the Atlantic's weekly "Dear Therapist" advice column and contributes regularly to the New York Times and many other publications.

Her recent TED Talk is one of the top 10 most-watched of the year, and she is a sought-after expert in media such as the Today show, Good Morning America, CBS's Early Show, CNN's Newsroom, and NPR's Fresh Air. Her new iHeart podcast, Dear Therapists, produced by Katie Couric, will premiere this year.

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