#414: Dr. Benjamin Hardy – Psychologist Reveals How To Reinvent Yourself
Oct 11, 2023
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Organizational psychologist Dr. Benjamin Hardy discusses a range of engaging topics on this podcast, including turning mentors into friends, setting keystone goals, the power of journaling, investing in coaches, deep vs. shallow work, reframing traumatic events, becoming a more perfect instrument, the power of affirmations, and writing to your future self and setting impossible goals.
Taking ownership of our past allows us to define its meaning and grow from experiences.
Investing in personal growth leads to significant development through online courses and coaching.
We have the power to define our experiences and transform negative situations into opportunities for growth.
Embracing challenges and maintaining a growth-oriented mindset leads to personal and professional growth.
Deep dives
The power of reframing and defining your own experiences
It is crucial to redefine and reframe our experiences, especially when facing challenges or receiving feedback. By taking ownership of our past, we can define its meaning and create a more empowering narrative. This allows us to learn and grow from our experiences, rather than being defined or limited by them.
Investing in oneself and being open to feedback
Investing in personal growth, such as buying online courses or seeking coaching, can lead to significant personal and professional development. Being open to feedback and willing to acknowledge when we are wrong allows us to grow and improve. It is important to approach feedback with a growth mindset and not defend our past or present actions.
Defining the experience and being flexible
We have the power to define our experiences and determine their meaning. Rather than being defined by our past or external circumstances, we can choose how to view and interpret them. This flexibility allows us to transform negative experiences into opportunities for growth and move forward with a more positive and empowered mindset.
Embracing challenges and growth through perseverance
Challenges and periods of growth require perseverance and a dedication to continuous learning. By embracing the peaks and valleys of our journey, we can achieve personal and professional growth. It is important to maintain a growth-oriented mindset and be open to the emotions and experiences that come with pursuing our goals and aspirations.
Parenting Challenges and Growth
The speaker discusses the challenges of parenting and the importance of developing a strong relationship with their child. They reflect on their own tendencies to be avoidant and fearful, and the need to let go of overreacting and catastrophizing. They emphasize the importance of playing the long game and focusing on what they want to create more of, rather than fixating on what they want to avoid. The speaker also expresses the desire to become a better parent by cultivating more love, encouragement, and positive interactions with their child.
Raising Adopted Children vs. Biological Children
The speaker shares their perspective on raising adopted children versus biological children. They highlight the importance of making adopted children feel like integral members of the family, rather than emphasizing their status as adopted. The speaker also discusses the challenges of being a foster parent and how they chose to fully commit to their foster children, even if it meant potential heartbreak. They emphasize the significance of consciously choosing to be a parent and the unique benefits it brings to both the children and themselves.
The Role of God and Faith
The speaker discusses their belief in God and the role of faith in their life. They express the importance of feeling God's presence and engaging in prayer as a way to seek guidance, help, and spiritual experiences. The speaker shares their belief in being open to divine direction and trusting in the flexibility of their relationship with God. They emphasize the need to continually refine their relationship with God, balancing personal choice with openness to insights and guidance.
