Brittany Polat on Deeper Connections (Episode 114)
Jan 19, 2024
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Brittany Polat joins Caleb to discuss Stoic compassion and cultivating deeper connections. Topics include becoming more compassionate, the abundance mindset, friendship, forgiving others and oneself, and the importance of practice and meditation. They explore various Stoic practices, such as perspective-taking exercises, gratitude, and self-accountability. The role of patience and meditation in making long-term improvements is highlighted, along with exercises for shifting perspective and incorporating physical techniques in Stoic practice.
Stoicism promotes a rational form of compassion, understanding suffering as a part of life.
Stoicism encourages reframing judgments and valuing relationships as a type of good.
Deep dives
The Stoic Perspective on Compassion
The ancient Stoics didn't speak directly of compassion, but they had similar concepts like kindness and understanding. Stoicism encourages a rational form of compassion, where we don't feel others' pain but understand that suffering is a part of life. Stoics believe in putting human nature in a broader context, fostering a pro-social engagement with others.
The Stoic Approach to Relationships and Compassion
Stoicism encourages reframing judgments and shifting perspective in relationships. The Stoics believe in valuing not only the positive qualities of others but also the relationship itself as a type of good. By focusing on gratitude and abundance, we can develop compassion and understanding for our partners, friends, coworkers, and neighbors.
Stoicism and Forgiveness
The Stoics emphasize understanding and pity rather than anger towards those who violate our trust or commit heinous acts. While holding individuals accountable for their actions, the Stoics recognize that when someone harms others, they harm themselves and lose their humanity. Forgiveness, in a Stoic sense, involves avoiding vengeance and seeking justice while showing pity and working towards preventing such actions from happening again.
Practicing Compassion Towards Oneself
Stoicism promotes self-compassion and acknowledges that growth is a gradual process. Rather than being overly harsh and critical towards ourselves, we should forgive ourselves for mistakes and focus on taking steps to improve. Self-reflection, journaling, and involving the Stoic community can help cultivate self-compassion and maintain a positive self-discourse.
How can you use Stoicism to cultivate compassion and build deeper connections?
Brittany Polat joins Caleb to talk about the themes from her new set of meditations: Deeper Connections. They discuss the meaning of Stoic compassion and what becoming more compassionate looks like in theory and practice.