The goop Podcast Why Certain Relationships Work
Jan 7, 2020
In this engaging discussion, John and Julie Gottman, relationship experts and cofounders of the Gottman Institute, share their insights on how to navigate romantic partnerships. They stress that embracing conflict can bolster love and understanding. The couple emphasizes the importance of accepting partners for who they are rather than who we wish them to be. Listeners will also learn about the necessity of effective communication tools and physical intimacy—yes, even finding time for daily make-out sessions!
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Perpetual Problems in Relationships
- Most relationship problems are perpetual and based on personality or lifestyle differences.
- Successful couples discuss these issues productively instead of avoiding or fighting over them.
Talk Deeply About Perpetual Issues
- Develop a system to talk about perpetual issues using deep listening and role reversal.
- Understand your partner's values, beliefs, and history to foster compassion and create compromises.
Conflict Reveals Love Needs
- John learned his wife needs a small welcoming ritual entering the living room.
- Their conflict taught him how small gestures boost connection and love.
