Nedra Glover Tawwab, a therapist and New York Times bestselling author known for her insights on boundaries, shares her expertise on establishing personal limits. She discusses the fear of rejection and how saying 'no' is essential for self-respect. Listeners learn about the emotional growth that comes from setting boundaries, especially within family dynamics. Nedra also explores the importance of effective communication and skepticism in relationships, emphasizing that understanding our emotions can lead to healthier interactions.
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Self-Focused Boundaries
Focus on setting boundaries for yourself, not others.
Determine what you will do, rather than trying to control other people's actions.
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Bedtime Boundary
Nedra Glover Tawwab's kids' later bedtime punished her because they still woke up early.
Enforcing an earlier bedtime gave her more evening time.
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Boundary Motivation
To stay motivated with boundaries, reflect on past failures in being flexible.
Visualize negative consequences to strengthen resolve.
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As a therapist, Nedra Glover Tawwab has spent years helping people set boundaries in their personal and professional lives. As the New York Times bestselling author of the books “Drama Free” and “Set Boundaries, Find Peace,” her wisdom often goes viral on Instagram and beyond. Nedra sits down with Adam for an insightful discussion on why people struggle with creating boundaries, how we can deal with saying “no,” and why setting a boundary is the ultimate act of self-respect. Transcripts for ReThinking are available at go.ted.com/RWAGscripts
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